Food Police

netnay
on 11/14/13 12:24 am

RNY on 03/27/13

I am so sick of people nit picking at me about what I can and can't eat or drink. I do good at sticking to what I am suppose to eat but I am not going to deny myself of a treat every once and a while. I know what I can and can't tolerate. Yes I have messed up. I don't eat the cakes and candies like I used to. I don't get the cream cheese, melt it in the microwave, mix it with sugar and eat it like I used to. BUT I don' need people being the food police CONSTANTLY with me!! All it does is make me stress out. And I know that their intentions may be good, but I wish they would back off. End of vent!!

poet_kelly
on 11/14/13 12:26 am - OH

RNY on 11/04/08

This may sound obvious, but have you told them you don't need their help and want them to stop it?

Kelly

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netnay
on 11/14/13 12:42 am

RNY on 03/27/13

I have but they seem to not get what I am saying.

netnay
on 11/14/13 12:43 am

RNY on 03/27/13

Also when I do tell them that I have it then they get offended.

Ocalasam
on 11/14/13 12:40 am

RNY on 12/18/12

Kelly, you crack me up! I would let people know that you have a handle on it, but thanks for their input. You can take it from here. Likely, they are just concerned and want you to be successful. I think all of us has experienced this at some point.

Lisa87
on 11/14/13 12:52 am

RNY on 12/13/13

Just reply by saying," Thanks for letting me know".

I use that for a lot of situations. It tends to diffuse me and pacify them.

Cheryl N.
on 11/14/13 12:55 am, edited 11/14/13 12:55 am - Des Moines, WA

Revision on 08/01/11

Just tell them to mind their own business and that you do not police their food.

Just ignore them.

246 in Dec 2008 before banded 1/28/09 at 215 lbs, band crapped 9/09 at 170 lbs and struggled with it and regained to 203 revised to bypass on 8/1/11 and am very happy.

H.A.L.A B.
on 11/14/13 1:07 am

RNY on 05/14/08

I am 5 years out.... I get treats , I do mess up. And some days when I do I have to pay for it... so does my BF.. He and couple of my friends - are the only one with permission to tell me to watch out - beacuse if I get sick - they will be influence by that... Other than that - people need to mind their own business..

I had a coworker that decide she is going to "monitor me". "she meant well" ... So I started to monitor her eating.... "that will make you fat", "you know what chemicals are in there?" and so on.. after one week - she asked me to stop... I told her that since she cares so much about me ... I am trying to show her that I care about her... a the end we agreed not to comment on each other food...

Hala. RNY 5/14/2008; Happy At Goal =HAG

"I can eat or do anything I want to - as long as I am willing to deal with the consequences"