Frustrated.........

Honestly, I didn't really feel like I hit my stride until somewhere between 3 and 4 months post-op.  Treat yourself with kindness; nothing positive comes from comparing your path or success with that of others.

Oh no you are not alone. For me the pain was  horrible. 2 weeks post op I was back in the hospital for 6 nights with intractable nausea and vomiting.  I was thinking OMG what have I done to myself.I was off work 7 weeks and really diddnt think I was ready then. Now I am 3.5 months post op and down 82 pounds and would do it all again.  I guess its like childbirth you forget about all that when the results are so great. I promise it will get better and your energy will return it just takes some of us longer than others.

So sorry you aren't feeling well.  However, when you are in the middle of it, it seems like an eternity.  Believe me, it will pass, just rest when you can, the recliner was my best friend, especially after I'd get sick and I was afraid to sleep laying down.  You must listen to your body, stay off the tuna and eggs if they don't sit well.  Don't be afraid to drink the protein drinks to get your protein in, I've often gone back either because I'm not hungry or I just can't get anything to settle after being sick.   Sleep whenever you can.  

It will get better.  I was emotional and depressed, but that to passed.  Take care, my friend.  You will be loving your WLS soon.  

3 weeks was still really hard with the food. I did feel really good pain-wise after a week, but I was tired on and off for weeks. Be kind to yourself.

I'm 7 weeks out, and I just started eating tuna and egg salad. At 3 weeks I was still on 100% liquids, just starting pureed. That was my centres plan, but I also knew I wouldn't be able to tolerate much more than soups.

I know what you're saying regarding exhaustion. I'm still super tired throughout some days. I only took 8 days off after surgery, and I think it's starting to catch up with me now. But honestly, once I hit week 5, I felt a million times better. I started to be able to tolerate soft foods, I felt more energetic, and lively, and my stomach no longer hurt at all throughout my day.

I find I'll have good and bad days, but for the last few weeks, they've all been good ones. I don't even feel like I've had surgery anymore. You will get there! We all heal at different paces. If you feel you need more time, tell your doctor, and try not to stress about it. It will pass. 

As for sleep, can't offer any advice, I'm struggling there too, but I've always been a bit of an insomniac. It's 3:56am as I type this! :( 

good luck! 

I am an old lady and have had many surgeries.  Some people believe that they just get over surgery and feel normal again quickly.  The truth is that the body takes a long time to get back to how you felt before surgery.  Reality is that it takes a year before everything is back to normal physically and emotionally.

There will be a morning when you wake up and everything will feel better than it did before your operation.  It will feel like that first beautiful spring day after a cold, bitter winter.  You will feel light, strong and hopeful.  What you are suffering through now will just be like a faint remembrance of a bad dream.

Do the best you can now.  Normal is not just around the corner.  This is as Shakespeare wrote, "the winter of your discontent".  There is a glorious spring and summer waiting for you when these dark days are past.  Think of yourself as a butterfly waiting to emerge in all of your beautiful and slender glory.

Definitely get dressed, do your hair and makeup.  Clean your house and car.  Get out and walk.  Visit with others.  Keep your mind off of yourself and have other interests than what you are eating and how tired you are.  If you are not working now, think about getting a job.  Plan what you are going to eat so it is just a minor part of your day.

A great exercise is going to the mall and walking past store windows and dreaming about the beautiful clothes you will now be able to fit into.  Go to bed early and avoid napping.  Try to stay too busy for that.  Life is going to get better every day for you.  This only gets better.

I am 16 days out...LAST NIGHT I told my boyfriend "I feel like everyone just recovers easier than me and that after 10 days they are just back to their regular routine!". I am glad you posted because it shows me that I am not the only one having a rough time. I am over-emotional and cry so easily! I am exhausted from the littlest things. I still have pain. Sleeping can be hell because of the pure frustration of not being able to get comfy and being SOOO SLEEPY at the same time!!  I actually had THREE surgeries...lap band removed, gastric bypass, AND gallbladder removal! My doctor wouldnt give me more pain medicine either so after running through my dad's old prescription that he had left...I am on strictly tylenol. I do feel that I get a little stronger each day...but I just can't believe how bad I feel! I am on full liquids for 4 weeks! then I move on to mushy foods for 3 months! I wont eat a solid piece of food again until the spring! The entire thing starts to get me down and really leaves me wondering what in the HELL DID I DO!  I am down 31lbs but i don't have any joy in it. What gets me though is the hope that at some point (hopefully very soon), I will look back and not feel the regret anymore. I just have to hope that it WILL happen. That I will eventually get on with my life and my normal routines. I knew this was a big deal...but somehow still feel that I was not completely prepared for this.  Just really good to know, we are both going through the same issues. Thanks for your post!

I also want to thank you for your post.  I feel the EXACT same way you describe.   I'm nauseous, tired, emotional, and at night my tummy cramps terrible so sleep is very broken. I did have a complication and a second surgery but it's still been two weeks since then and almost 4 since my rny. Some days are better than others but I can say I'm not one of the people who just bounced back.  I don't regret my surgery but I am impatiently waiting for light at the end of the tunnel. With the support of each other I know we will all get there. You will be in my prayers.  This too shall pass.

Chanel