Surgery is Friday and I am thinking about cancelling!

I had serious buyers remorse at one week to. It does get better, even just one more week makes a big difference. I just pureed some stew and it is delicious. Once you get off full liquids it's bearable. I promise!

It may be a case of cold feet. We all had doubt and nerves. But remember if this was not for you then why did you waste a year and half of your life preparing. You did this because you know deep down this is your last resort. I'm sure you just like many of the rest of us have tried all of the other ways to lose weight and keep it off but it did not work. You are already doing much better than me I could not stick to that 3 week preop liquid diet it was awful. I only stuck to it for 1 week. I found a protein drink after trying so many I can tolerate just to get my intake in and I understand I was to the point were the thought of drinking one made want to puke. But it gets better and throught trial and error you will find one you like. Sticking to the post op liquid diet is much easier because you are not hungry. Being in a big black family every thing we do centers around food. I just eat before I go to most family functions and still socialize and enjoy in the celebration. I refuse to let the fact that there is food there keep me from attending. For me this decision was a matter of life or death and I am very happy that I had the surgery. Only you know if this is a case of the nerves or if this is not right for you.

I wanted to back out.But I am glad I didn't.I feel so much better.I sat on the floor the other day and didn't even pay attention to what I was doing.I didn't hurt.

This is a major life change but my life is so much better.It is scary.I remember thinking will I never be able to eat this or that again.I was afraid about how I was going to eat. But the fear of breaking furniture when I am out places.Making excuses why I can't do certain things.Lying saying I am not feeling well so I can go home.

I know surgery isn't for everyone.The liquid diet does blow. But being obese is worse.

Write down why you should have it and why you shouldn't. See which one out weighs each other. I was 322 at my highest weight I am now 182 I still have a bit to go but that's okay I will get there.

My life is better now.Best wishes to you.

First off, thank you all sooooo much for your advice and help! It's amazing how I went from feeling completely ready to wanting to forget about the whole thing! It was a couple of words "are you sure you're going to go through with this?" And it was right then that I realized that I didn't know! 

I LOVE food... I love pasta, pizza, fries, fried food, desserts, etc! I am so depressed that I won't be able to eat these anymore, or at least not to the extent that I want to!!! I feel like I might not be as ready as I thought I was, however, I've waited SO long for this so it seems like a shame to throw it all away!

I am worried about Christmas, am depressed about it actually! I feel desperate to eat.... I literally can't even stomach the optifast shakes anymore... They make me sick! And to think another 2.5 weeks at least of this crap? I feel like I am at my breaking point right now! 

One second I know for sure I don't want to do it, and the next I am telling myself to get my head out of my ass and screw it on straight because this is what I've wanted for so long! 

My family (parents & husband) are VERY supportive either way choose to go! They said to sleep on it tonight and see how I feel about it tomorrow! I am STARVING and all I want to do is eat, but if I do that there is no decision to make! 

I feel soooooo lost! This may be the biggest and most life altering decision I've ever had to make and I am so confused as to what to do :-( :-( :-(

Go with your gut.  If you're not ready to give up the foods that made you fat, then cancel the surgery.  Otherwise you're likely to eat them after surgery and have problems losing weight.

WLS is a commitment and life altering change.  If you're not committed at this point because you don't want to give up food, then it's probably not the best choice for you right now.

Good luck with whatever path you choose.

I guess the truth is that you have to decide what you love most.  If it's food then you are wise to cancel your surgery.  The truth is, that none of us while morbidly obese is starving.  Just like a heroin addict isn't actually dying from not shooting up.  Feelings aren't facts.  They are just feelings.

If you don't feel ready, then wait.  Wait until you feel a steely resolve to take the most advantage of your "honeymoon" period.  

you are right,it isn't for you and I agree that you should cancel.

I had my surgery like 12 days ago. I also had strong doubts as the surgery approached. I have 2 questions for you and please be honest with yourself..

1. Do you believe that losing weight and the health benefits that go with it has a pretty good chance of adding years and quality years to your life.

2. Do you have friends, relatives, or loved ones who will be devastated by your premature death and/or debilitation.

The answer to question 1, is rhetoric- unless you are lying to yourself the answer is absolutely yes. That leaves only question 2. If the answer to question 2 is yes, the you owe it to those you love and to yourself to summon the strength to do this.

It really is simple: Don't have the surgery and condemn yourself and all who love you to terrible misery and pain.

Have the surgery, and give yourself a real chance for a happy and healthy life and bless the younger of those you love with the opportunity of having you to dance with at their wedding.

Wow... talk about guilt trips!

People need to be READY to make the commitment to hage surgery. Telling someone that -- no matter how ready she is or isn't to make the commitment and the necessary changes to be successful -- she "owes" it to her family and that if she doesn't have surgery right now that she will be inflicting "terrible misery and pain" on herself and her loved ones and that they will be "devastated" by her premature death or "debilitation" is VERY harsh and more than a little presumptuous.  

Especially since you aren't going to be there to support her if she has the surgery and then struggles to lose weight and keep it off because she wasn't ready...

Lora

Lora, upon re-reading my reply I see that I did overstep and as you said my comments were were indeed very harsh and over presumptuous and I do sincerely apologize to the OP for my insensitivity and lack of respect.  Thank you for calling me out on this which I honestly deserved to be. As I mentioned I am less than two weeks post op and I now see that I need to gain experience before presuming to impart advise based on my limited perspective.