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cajungirl
on 10/17/10 5:54 am

Paige you nailed it. There is Little to NO support for long-term post-ops. I honestly believe that is part of the problem long-termers deal with. I get the paying it forward and I still try some, BUT it gets to a point we want/need something else and MOST of the time we don't get it here on OH either.

I wish I had the answer for those struggling. What can we do to help? Is it a private OH group that people can come to to discuss what they are going through? I would gladly create a new group, which would be invite ONLY, and focus on those 2 years and up. Whatever is discussed there would stay THERE. I'm saying 2 years and up because although the honeymoon for some ends sooner, I do believe after 2 years is the major time for post-ops to hit that point of fear and lack of support.

If anyone is interested in a private OH group, please let me know in a PM. If there is enough interest I'll start the group and send invites to those I know are looking for a place to discuss concerns and fears.

Proximal RNY Lap - 02/21/05

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Stephanie G.
on 10/17/10 7:08 am - Rowlett, TX

RNY on 07/30/07

Dana, I'd love to have a private group meeting place but I'm not sure OH is the way to go. I find their site very difficult at times. In fact I didn't even know there were private OH groups available. I would prefer a Facebook group but will do whatever anyone decides. Plus I think everyone should be able to join if they're having issues or even if they just want to prevent having issues. I worry about all the lurkers who need help but are afraid to speak up or ask to be invited. I'm not sure what the answer is, only that we need to do something NOW to help each other.

~Stephanie~
RNY revision from lapband 7/30/07...TT/BL 10/9/08 and at GOAL

Paige E.
on 10/17/10 7:20 am - TX

Lap Band on 05/30/08

The only thing about doing it on FB is that it would have to be by invite only because you wouldn't want it to be an open/public group. The OH group could either be open and to all OH'ers or private if we wanted to do it that way.

~Paige~  -155lbs    (lovin' my band)
At GOAL and BMI is healthy!!

cajungirl
on 10/17/10 7:33 am

RNY on 02/21/05

The one negative about FB is that many WLS peeps aren't on FB. The private groups here work pretty well if you put them in your bookmarks.

I'm trying to set up a group right now, once it's set up I'll let y'all know. I am setting up for 2+ year post-ops initially. I want it to be a "safe haven" for those that are needing somewhere else.

Proximal RNY Lap - 02/21/05

9 years committed ~ 100% EWL and Maintaining

www.dazzlinglashesandbeyond.com

Vivian Prouty
on 10/17/10 8:07 am - Fort Worth, TX

RNY on 11/22/05

I am in too. But WHY make it a Private group?? Why not contact OH and see if they can start a Message Board for Veterans to get back on track. I am sure that they would go for that. I have re-gained some and I am NOT happy about it at all. Trust me....I think we ALL should have gone through way more counseling pre op than we had to. In fact I think we need years of that to deal with all that comes our way after our WLS and to deal with the "you are TOO thin" comments. Too bad I believed everyone. Then I gained weight so I wouldn't look so thin. Then life happened as it somehow always does and stress set in and I turned to my old friend "food" and made some bad choices. We ALL need support no matter where we are in this life changing journey !!!! I vote to see if OH will do a message board for Veterans with weight re-gain where we can openly go and talk about this.

Hugs and blessings ~~~ vivian

GOD GRANT ME THE SERENITY TO ACCEPT THE THINGS I CAN NOT CHANGE; COURAGE TO CHANGE THE THINGS THAT I CAN; AND THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE !!!! THIS IS MY DAILY PRAYER.
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cajungirl
on 10/17/10 8:37 am

RNY on 02/21/05

Vivian, there are already open groups, back on track is open and the grad board is available. Some people aren't comfortable in an open group that's why I want a private group. We can also keep troll or trouble makers not accessible.

Proximal RNY Lap - 02/21/05

9 years committed ~ 100% EWL and Maintaining

www.dazzlinglashesandbeyond.com

beckyhagens
on 10/17/10 8:52 am - New Braunfels, TX

RNY on 03/29/07

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Vivian Prouty
on 10/17/10 2:13 pm - Fort Worth, TX

RNY on 11/22/05

This is true Dana. I didn't think about that. I have been attacked more times than I wish to count by others on some of the other message boards. Not a fun thing to happen to you.

Hugs and blessings ~~~ Vivian

GOD GRANT ME THE SERENITY TO ACCEPT THE THINGS I CAN NOT CHANGE; COURAGE TO CHANGE THE THINGS THAT I CAN; AND THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE !!!! THIS IS MY DAILY PRAYER.
Vivian Prouty Obesity Help Support Group Coach "LOSE IT 4 LIFE"

beckyhagens
on 10/17/10 8:45 am, edited 10/17/10 8:46 am - New Braunfels, TX

RNY on 03/29/07

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Gina 23 years out
on 10/17/10 10:00 am - Burleson, TX

RNY on 04/22/02

VIVIAN-there is already an OH "Back on Track" group that has been around awhile. I founf it to be too impersonal for me-but great info for "in general". i think we're looking for something more specific and where we can be brutally honest. I know I couldn't do that just anywhere (ok-y'all stop snorting)

RNY 4-22-02...

LW: 6lb,10 oz SW:340lb GW:170lb CW:155

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