Now that YOU are THIN/NER would YOU DATE A MO person

Yup, I would! He'd have to be funny, smart, quick witted and thoughtful. Strong and be a handy kind of guy (able to fix things). Put all those things together and I'd marry him! Oh yeah, I did! Except mine tends to run on the medium build side but I'd take the above guy in any form.

eventhough I still very OB I'm not attracted to men who are. when a guy approaches me thats OB> I say uh.... depending on the conversation tone, I'll  crack a joke by saying," c'm on, now what are we gonna do, Make beacon?"
 No matter what I prefer thin guys.

Lemme put it to you this way: I put my husband's ass on a diet as soon as I was sleeved! My take is we BOTH need to take steps to better our health to be here longer and be better role models for our 4 girls. We were both big time enablers for one another and I didn't want to fail and for him to feel guilty because he contributed to it. Not only that, but after over 20 years of marriage, the bedroom scene was sadly lacking and here's why: we were/are both obese and the energy was severely lacking, and obese people are a bit limited as to what exactly they can do in the sack. We had a lil tumble a couple of nights ago and lemme tell ya - HUGE difference!!!!! Don't care what anyone says, good sex is important in a marriage. Having said that, if he became ill or disabled, that'd be a totally diff story.

This is a really interesting question to post-- thanks for the chance to have a serious adult discussion.

I think I agree with the people who feel that someone too obese might set their own health goals and habits off track with their poor eating habit and bad eating decisions. For me, at this early stage in my journey, I think it'd be disastrous. I'm a pushover as it is when it comes with poor willpower and food, so being with someone big who is either wonderful at making food decisions and is working on his health or someone who is already fit would be who I would go for.

I've been with someone for almost 7 years, but I know that when I was on the market, I was never interested in men too much bigger than myself.

My boyfriend is an inch taller than me and at my highest weight he was five pounds less. To compare, he is a bit smaller but has a similar build to the guy in the red spandex (though if my guy ever put one of those getups on we'd be over FOR SURE!) and my build is I guess closest to the girl on the right in the pink, though I'm nowhere nearly as curvaceous or busty (unless you consider the beer-gut-esque outward curve of my abdomen as curvaceous which I don't!).

Casual dating, probably. Friends, definitely. But sex or a long term relationship, not unless the chemistry of attraction was there which thus far it hasn't been.

My boyfriend is huge - 246lbs!  He is muscle, muscle, muscle.  I never in my life thought I would date a man that looked like him.  Muscles to his extreme never attracted me.  This guy is so broad, chest wide, waist small, muscle thighs and calfs.  It is ridiculous.  He didn't mind that I had all that loose skin . . . that I had been fat.   (See me, I was a fake skinny person, but my excess skin told the truth - how could I turn my back on my peeps)He is all against this surgery, he wants me to be able to do it the "natural way" - He suggest 1 hour on my cycle in the morning and 1 hour in the evening along with clean restricted eating. .

I am a chubbster again and I gotta say that I am all tits, ass, and thighs.  I've never looked like the women in your photo and I think those men are extreme.  So many big women are truly beautiful.

I wouldn't at all mind being with someone who had a weight issue.  As long as their was "willingness"  on his part to get and remain healthy, we could work together.

I'll be brutally honest here on this one, and I'll get slammed, stones thrown, beaten up big time for this one, but I never dated big/fat/mo guys EVER. I was actually called out on it by friends, and my reply was "2 fat people trying to f*ck is like watching 2 whales fight for air under a sheet". . . So, I'm a cold-hearted, sizeist ***** and I admit it. I dated tall, well-built, more athletic, around 220-250 pounds in the 6'2" to 6'5" range for most of my dating years.

I outweighed my husband by 110lbs when we met, and he's a whole 10inches taller than me. . .And, he loved every inch of my fat, rolly poley body back then, and still loves me loose skin, saggy skin bag boobs, and jigglyness. He's built like a brick ****house, at 6'0" weighs in at 172lbs, a 29inch waist and his last body fat percentage was 16%. I loathe his metabolism, but he works his ass off for his rocking little body LOL.

LOL And that's why you're preggers!! I'm the same way!! I've dated larger when my self esteem needed a boost. Which wasn't a nice thing to do, but I'm human.  

Um I don't know. I go more for chirisma, brains, and money (are we being totally truthful?) than weight I'd say however I find my standards are a lot higher now than they were 80lbs ago.

Yes, I would date someone who was MO with a few caveats. They'd have to be the type of person that was working on the issue even if wasn't resolved for them. They'd have to try to be active and eat right, even if it didn't show. If they ate junk food all the time and sat on the couch every day, no.

To me the most important part of attraction is the person and their spirit, attitude, etc. not the exterior. I would not want to date someone who was a smoker or a regular drinker though. I know first hand that just because you are a MO person doesn't mean that you are sitting around eating donuts.

I was always trying to eat healthy and exercise 99% of the time all of my life. I was out living life roller blading and dancing and eating low carb. I didn't get very far because of the portions but not because of bad choices in general.

I have dated male models and nerdy types and everything in between. I didn't really care about the package but what was inside. To me a hot guy is a considerate guy.. you know the kind that will offer to help you carry in groceries and what not. *sigh*

Honestly, I have to feel the chemistry- and that chemistry generally starts with looks. I have a type I like- tall, fit, on the thin side with nice long legs and an interesting face.. Think David Bowie.

I have generally dated along these lines, but did date someone shorter than me, and did date a man who was obese. I loved him too- we had great chemistry for each other. But for the most part it's the thin type I am drawn to.. My husband is 6' and ranges between 150-155, long legs, slender frame but has some nice lean muscles.

If I were single- I too would be afraid of getting into a rut with another MO person.. I know me, give me the choice between the couch or exercise, yep- couch wins. I eat well, and did before surgery- just way too much.. my fit husband can eat tons of the food I make, and not gain. It's just his genetic luck as he puts it. He met me as a fitness freak chubby girl, knew I was MO at one time before, saw me get back there and is now watching the reverse. He never judged me for what was happening, was he concerned- yes. He also thankfully is not food-centered or food driven, I finally feel like we match in that regard now since surgery!

Friends are another matter all together- anything goes!
I don't feel ashamed of this at all- we each generally have a type we are attracted to- that's just human nature.. Have I dated outside my type- yep, and loved it. It's just what gets that chemistry going..