Came out of the "closet " on my WLS

Well I have come out of the "closet" so to speak.  I at first wanted to keep it secret and then I thought to myself  Why? If people want to judge me, which they already do based on what I look like, why not allow them to see I am making steps to make my life and my health better. 

I have had the "just get out and move more" and all the other stories of how to make my life better based on other peoples lives.  Yeah - well they are NOT me! They dont realize I have other medical issues that will be better due to this whole process.  

My theory now is I have no problem telling them, but if they say something - They can eat my shorts! Especially when they are too big for me to wear anymore!!

WTG - I too am an open book.  I can honestly say no one has been anything but supportive.  The only "are you sure"s I've gotten have come out of fear - not wanting to loose me.  I don't think anyone would do the just move, eat better, yadda yadda yadda because they know I'd cut ugly!  Actually I would let them know I will be now moving and eating better because the sleeve won't do the work, I have to - it just makes the work I do far more effective.

I hope your experience is just as positive as mine!

 Good for you. I was pretty honest about my surgery and got mixed reactions. But I didn't do this for other people. I did this for me. You have a pretty great attitude about it. 

I agree it's usually best to just be honest. Might as well either stop the gossip or at least start the right kind from the very beginning.

It's funny cuz I was so openly honest at church telling a few of the ladies I knew the best. Now 3+ months out, I have other ladies coming up to me complimenting my weight loss. I asked them this past Sunday, "you know I had WLS don't you?"...to which they all have said 'no'. Hmmm....when you are honest and hope people will gossip (well, in the form of Christian prayer...LOL) they don't! At least I know who I can trust with a secret now!

I have told my parents, and my husbands parents, and a few close friends.  I know I will tell people eventually... its not that I want to keep it a secret, but I dont want to get any negative feedback before the surgery.  I'm nervous as it is, so I dont want anyone to say something to make me feel bad about what Im doing.  I wish I could be as brave as you!  :)

 A lot of people are the same way, myself included.  I tell pretty much anyone now (with a few glaring exceptions) and have had positive replies from everyone but my aunt.  eyeroll.  

Hi,

I guess I can get my 2 cents in. I have not told anyone in my family other than, husband and 2 daughter's. I live in a small town and My Mom worries about everything ever body in our family. The Dr's told us not to worry her if we could help not stress her, because when she does she has mini strokes. Once she ask me or say how I am losing weight, it will show her that I am ok by then. Another reason, this is my time to shine and right now I really don't want to share it
, nor all the gossip.
God Bless
Evie

Ha ha..... Nice!  I tell everybody!  Good for you!

I tell everyone.  Today I had a woman and her mother come eat at my shop.  Instead of sitting at one of our tables they took their lunches outside and sat on a bench, in the  heat.  The woman is very large and I knew why she didn't sit in my puny ass chairs.  So I took a table out to them so that they could eat without holding their food in their laps.  The older mother said that her daughter was afraid to sit on our chairs.  I said that I understood as I was a bariatric patient. The overweight woman immediately started asking me questions.  I gave her this site, my business card, and the card of my surgeon's office.  We talked for about 30 minutes.  As they were leaving the mother said,"  I think God sent us here for lunch to talk to you."  I almost cried.  That is why I tell everyone.