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I don't know you at all, but I will say that there have been 2 incidences where I can recall thinking you came across as aggressive on this site. At least that is my opinion, others may completely disagree. Everyone is different and what may seem aggressive or needy to one friend may go completely un-noticed to another, so it may just be a personality clash with that particular friend? Who knows.
Here is one post where I felt you were a bit aggressive with people who were trying to give honest answers to your question:
http://www.obesityhelp.com/forums/amos/4302471/WHY-EAT-AROUND-YOUR-SURGERY/action,replies/topic_id,4302471/page,1/
The only other one that comes to mind is one where exnavy was posting about his relationship struggles with his girlfriend who had some baggage. In my memory (as I don't remember the post title), you really fussed at him for airing her dirty laundry on this site, when in reality he was looking for support from his point of view in the relationship and never mentioned any personally identifying information about her such as her name or location or anything like that. He kept her completely anonymous.
ETA: There was also all that drama on the Secret Pal board with Rentacar which apparently led her to step down from coordinating the program, but that was apparently due to a lot of PMs between you and her, so I don't know that full story. But anyway, do you think you are an aggressive person? Do you view this as negative or positive? Some people may want to be aggressive.
But those are the only instances that come to my mind and I can think of many other posts where you've been very supportive and encouraging to others.
Perhaps your friend is focusing on a fleeting moment of neediness or aggression and forgetting the big picture. We all have our moments of less than desirable behavior, but it doesn't mean that is who we are as a whole or that there is "something wrong" with you.
Again, talk to the friend and see what is behind the comments. Obviously the crimes are not so atrocious that the friend didn't want to spend the day at Disneyland with you! Hopefully you can clear the air and have happy memories of your trip to the park.
Best of luck,
Lindsey
Blessings to you Lindsey.
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"Keeping The Faith!" "Slim by Summer!"
HW: 250 - SW: 241 - CW: 154.7- GW: 140
1 month: 22 pounds (216) 2 months: 12.2 pounds (203.8) 3 months: 10.6 (193.2)
4 months: 9.7 lbs (183.5) 5 Months: 6 pounds (177.5 ) 6 Months: 12 lbs ( 165.5)
7 Months 7.1 lbs (158.4) 8 Months +1.6 pounds(159.8) 9 Months 2.7 pounds (157.1)
10 Months 8.1 lbs (149) 11 months +2 pounds ( 151) 1 YEAR!!! 2.6 pounds (148.4)
Hit "One-derland April 9th, 2011 (199.7)
"Half-Way Goal" April 25th, 2011 (194.8)
"Happyland 80`s" May 14, 2011 (189.6)
"Groovyland 70`s" June 20th 2011 (179.9)
" HippyDippyland 60's" July 16th (169.8)
" CQQL-land 50`s" August 25th ( 159.8)
"Normal BMI" 24.8 October 21st, 2011 (154.5) I am 5`6
"AWESOME-land 40's" Dec 1st 2011 (149)
"Century Club 100 Pounds" Dec 1st 2011 (149)
' ONE YEAR SURGIVERSARY!!!"
Two Year Surgiversary!!!"
You did this for you and not for their satisfaction...
Take the picture...be proud....and the Hell with the rest of them who don't understand.
Have a Great Day!
maggie
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"Keeping The Faith!" "Slim by Summer!"
HW: 250 - SW: 241 - CW: 154.7- GW: 140
1 month: 22 pounds (216) 2 months: 12.2 pounds (203.8) 3 months: 10.6 (193.2)
4 months: 9.7 lbs (183.5) 5 Months: 6 pounds (177.5 ) 6 Months: 12 lbs ( 165.5)
7 Months 7.1 lbs (158.4) 8 Months +1.6 pounds(159.8) 9 Months 2.7 pounds (157.1)
10 Months 8.1 lbs (149) 11 months +2 pounds ( 151) 1 YEAR!!! 2.6 pounds (148.4)
Hit "One-derland April 9th, 2011 (199.7)
"Half-Way Goal" April 25th, 2011 (194.8)
"Happyland 80`s" May 14, 2011 (189.6)
"Groovyland 70`s" June 20th 2011 (179.9)
" HippyDippyland 60's" July 16th (169.8)
" CQQL-land 50`s" August 25th ( 159.8)
"Normal BMI" 24.8 October 21st, 2011 (154.5) I am 5`6
"AWESOME-land 40's" Dec 1st 2011 (149)
"Century Club 100 Pounds" Dec 1st 2011 (149)
' ONE YEAR SURGIVERSARY!!!"
Two Year Surgiversary!!!"
Big hugs, Doc! I think of it this way: your friend was giving you data about how they experienced you. It's more about them than you. It may geninuely be how they experience you overall, it may be how they were feeling in response to something happening in the moment, or it may be they were having a grumpy day.
I am sure other people have found me needy and aggressive at times. We all have those characteristics in us. For me, I'd want to know where this was a one-off opinion, or if my behavior were eliciting this reaction in several of my friends. It might be worth examining if it were a common theme, and perhaps better ignored if it were just one person's reaction.
I am such a people-pleaser that it can feel HORRIBLE to realize there are actually people who don't like me. Yet, perfectly reasonable to think there are people *I* don't like!
:) Happy
53 yrs old, 5'6" HW: 293 ConsW: 273 SW: 263 CW: 206 
I will take that Huuuug
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"Keeping The Faith!" "Slim by Summer!"
HW: 250 - SW: 241 - CW: 154.7- GW: 140
1 month: 22 pounds (216) 2 months: 12.2 pounds (203.8) 3 months: 10.6 (193.2)
4 months: 9.7 lbs (183.5) 5 Months: 6 pounds (177.5 ) 6 Months: 12 lbs ( 165.5)
7 Months 7.1 lbs (158.4) 8 Months +1.6 pounds(159.8) 9 Months 2.7 pounds (157.1)
10 Months 8.1 lbs (149) 11 months +2 pounds ( 151) 1 YEAR!!! 2.6 pounds (148.4)
Hit "One-derland April 9th, 2011 (199.7)
"Half-Way Goal" April 25th, 2011 (194.8)
"Happyland 80`s" May 14, 2011 (189.6)
"Groovyland 70`s" June 20th 2011 (179.9)
" HippyDippyland 60's" July 16th (169.8)
" CQQL-land 50`s" August 25th ( 159.8)
"Normal BMI" 24.8 October 21st, 2011 (154.5) I am 5`6
"AWESOME-land 40's" Dec 1st 2011 (149)
"Century Club 100 Pounds" Dec 1st 2011 (149)
' ONE YEAR SURGIVERSARY!!!"
Two Year Surgiversary!!!"
First, lets focus on Disneyland, PLEASE.....You had such a wonderful time and accomplished something that we all experience as large people. You rode the rides and experienced Disneyland as a thin person.......Hello, don't let anyone, anyone take away that from you.I am much older than you, and I learned later in life, nobody can make me feel bad. Only I can control my feelings.......
I have read many many of your posts on this board, and NEEDY is not what I get from any of ;your posts. You have become very independent and accomplished. You set your mind to things and do them..
Jealousy comes out in many forms and sounds to me, that statement is one made out of jealousy....
Next time someone says something that may hurt, put on your new small big girl panties and come right back at them.. Or just say, "really, please explain"
You are wonderful, know it and feel it...
I am afraid that this person may be right as far as me being needy. I am not fully
sure yet and talking about it with my sponsor. I just know it didnt feel good.
Today I am owning the behavior and who wants to admit it? Certainly not me.
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"Keeping The Faith!" "Slim by Summer!"
HW: 250 - SW: 241 - CW: 154.7- GW: 140
1 month: 22 pounds (216) 2 months: 12.2 pounds (203.8) 3 months: 10.6 (193.2)
4 months: 9.7 lbs (183.5) 5 Months: 6 pounds (177.5 ) 6 Months: 12 lbs ( 165.5)
7 Months 7.1 lbs (158.4) 8 Months +1.6 pounds(159.8) 9 Months 2.7 pounds (157.1)
10 Months 8.1 lbs (149) 11 months +2 pounds ( 151) 1 YEAR!!! 2.6 pounds (148.4)
Hit "One-derland April 9th, 2011 (199.7)
"Half-Way Goal" April 25th, 2011 (194.8)
"Happyland 80`s" May 14, 2011 (189.6)
"Groovyland 70`s" June 20th 2011 (179.9)
" HippyDippyland 60's" July 16th (169.8)
" CQQL-land 50`s" August 25th ( 159.8)
"Normal BMI" 24.8 October 21st, 2011 (154.5) I am 5`6
"AWESOME-land 40's" Dec 1st 2011 (149)
"Century Club 100 Pounds" Dec 1st 2011 (149)
' ONE YEAR SURGIVERSARY!!!"
Two Year Surgiversary!!!"
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