She told EVERYONE!!!

So I decided to tell my supervisor (who I thought I could trust) that I was having wls.  I also asked her not to tell anyone and that I would tell people once I felt comfortable..Did she honor my request? HELL NO! I have received numerous phone calls from co-workers asking how my gastric bypass surgery went..first of all, I did not have a bypass, I had the sleeve and secondly, how did they find out?  I only told her so I assume she told everyone..some of those people were just calling to be nosey, while others may have been truly concerned about my well-being..I just didn't want the pressure of having to explain everything to them right now..I am sooo scared to go back to work because now i will feel like everyone is secretly whispering behind my back and watching everything that i put in myow mouth!!!

If I could do it all over again I wouldn't have told her a DAMN thing!

Any suggestions on how I can handle everything when I return to work?  Did anybody else have this problem?

I feel so betrayed by her!

OAN: I'm down 25 lbs! Haay!

If you work for a big company - file a complaint with HR.

If you are comfortable confronting her, then do so. It was totally unprofessional.  If not, you  might just have to deal with it.

I had a co worker do the same thing but in the end, it worked out for the best because now I have soo many supportive people  around me :) There are a few nay-sayers but screw them.

 Wow.  That sounds like something to discuss with HR.  And her, directly.  

But the cat is out of the bag, so I recommend holding your head up and being proud of your brand new sleeve.  Don't let anyone make you feel bad about this...it is a great thing you have done for yourself.  

Good luck!
Jenny

Yeah for your wt loss..good job!!

But what your supervisor IF she told someone who told someone broke confidentiality. Report it to your HR person and see what they have to say.

But all in all...ok.. its OUT now. Be proud, stand tall and do not let others misjudgment  or curiosity control you now. YOU are in control of YOU.

Good that you came here with your anger...vent..let it out. But yes I would report her to HR.

Gentle Hugs, Jan

Thanks for the advice ladies..See the thing is she treats me like her child and not a colleague. she is old and is about to retire in less than 30 days so she has joined the "Kiss My apple" club..I will just hold my head high and keep it moving..I really feel violated :(

Tell her exactly that -- that you told her something deeply personal, in confidence, and her failure to keep the conversation private like you requested has left you feeling very violated. She should be called out on what she did (because it was super ****ty) even if she can't get in "official" trouble with HR.

 When you go back to work and somebody insists on talking to you about it, you keep your chin up, look them straight in the eye, and ask them why they are asking the questions.  Then simply but assertively state that you are not interested in commenting about your health.    And when they look and whisper, just continue to remind yourself that you are taking care of YOU!!  And that YOU are the reason to take care of yourself, not your coworkers!

Report to HR and her ass is fired. What a *****! It is unprofessional and illegal. It's called HPPA
Damn.

The damage is done.  But you can still give as much or as little information out as you want.

I don't know how far you want to push this, but a supervisor should not be giving health information out to other employees.  Sounds like an issue to take up with her boss or if you want to persue it.

I kind of had the same thing happen when I took my RN exam.  I told my boss (since I was stressing and needed a day off) and asked her please not to mention I had my exam date set.  I later found out she had told a couple of people.... but I love her and she was excited for me, so I forgave her and went on.  Do you get along with your boss otherwise?  If so, chalk it up to a lesson learned about who you can confide in and who you can't. 

Yeah, we get along just fine but OMG did she not understand that I didn't want people to know?  What was wrong with her just telling people I was off due to surgery..she didn't have to tell them the EXACT type..I guess I should fault myself for being too honest and open with her..