TLC-Big Sexy

 
Jus****ch the TLC show called "Big Sexy"

First off.....Big Props to the girls for getting a TV Show.......Bravo !!!!!

Second...... It was hard to watch......

Don't get me wrong I'm all for the "be big and proud" thing and "be the best you can be"

But I don't think this show does anything for "Obese People" in general. The show seems like a false illusion of what it's like to be Obese.....Woman or Man....

Maybe it's because "I've been there" I can so....see the un-comfort right through the gloss of the TV thing. Just the way they sit on a couch.....yah know.....not that plop down the fat person comfortable way.... but that "try to be normal" way...where nothing fits....belly folds.....no neck.....not knowing what to do with your legs....can't cross em......arms seem short....you know what I'm talkin about !!!

Another "Red Flag" for me....cause I know..... the photo shoots on the show were "Staged"....Amateur equipment with amateur photographers.....

At film shoots we have whats called "Craft Services" basically people being paid to feed the cast and crew every wrong food for somebody watching what they are eating !!!! Sure, there are granola bars and a fruit bowl.....but otherwise....a rolling food orgy!!!

I just have this vision of the cast of Big Sexy just being in heaven with Craft Services!!!

Anyway.... maybe I'm over sensitive to the way Obese people are illustrated or perceived.

It does bring up some of the struggles....but overall it was very hard to watch.

frisco

No Frisco, you are not the only one that finds this show hard to watch. I am probably larger than all of them but I feel the same way.

Again, props to the girls for getting a show and I am always happy to see obese women who are confident with themselves. I am definitely one of those. It is okay to be obese and be fashionable, a happy person, have a good social life and live to defy the word "can't" or live the best life you can.

And that is where the problem comes in--"the best life you can". I think the show is getting to the point where they are going to show (even in a small way) that there are real health concerns with obesity. People want to be confident and feel sexy but you are never going to convince me that an obese person eventually will have no health problems or concerns that are directly caused largely in part by their obesity. I am told constantly that I am "pretty healthy" but at 490 there is no such thing.

I am glad there is a show like Big Sexy for those women, teens and young girls who have self esteem problems and need the boost and encouragement. At the same time, I also hope that the show also shows the truth of how obesity can lead to a dangerous and unhealthy end. I think anyone that has been in our shoes and had to go down the road that we have and are will find it hard to watch.

You aren't alone. I refuse to watch it. Just like I stopped watching Biggest loser a couple of years because the level of exploitation that was exhibited. I mean really is it healthy, or conducive to any human being to be ran so hard that they are flung off the back of a treadmill into a wall? No. And, then Jillian and now even Bob are whoring out products that are horrific for any human to put in their bodies. I wasn't upset when Designer Whey paired up with them, but when they both started whoring out the 7 day fat burners, and other absurd "fat" dietary products, I simply couldn't suppor****ching the show.

What really did it for me was this year they put out a statement to a large military spouse organization(NAMMAS) seeking contestants who are military spouses. I begged, pleaded with the organization leader to make sure they would NOT exploit military spouses in the way they have previous contestants. It sickened me to see so many military spouse (women) begging to be on that show. That program is furthest from reality, throwi in deployments, moving to a new duty station ever 2-3 years ,typically 2+ kids to care for in our husband's absence, ship them off to the "ranch" to lose weight in the most unrealistic way for anyone's lifestyle, but extremely difficult to maintain as a military spouse. And, I had women arguing with me that it was their only option. I "outed" myself as a VSG patient, and then several chimed in they had RNY and had gained back weight again, or never got to goal and need to kickstart. My argument back to them was "we ***** and complain every time our husbands get shipped off, and here you are volunteering to be separated from your family all for a publicity stunt, ratings seeking behavior from a television that needs a new angle, and well, you'll be the new angle with this huge draw to military families and the lives we choose to lead because of the job our husbands volunteered to do." Not one person could see that this was simply a new angle for BL producers to get viewers to watch. They just refused to listen, and they all supported the harsh workout tactics used, especially those by Jillian which I find appalling and abusive.

Anyways, I can'****ch any of the "fat" shows anymore. I can't even watch Ruby anymore. It's just a production show of how life is supposed to be for the obese population. I just can't do it.

I agree. It really disappointed me when jillian and bob started whoring themselves out for products. It felt like they'd sold out or something. I didn'****ch last season at all and I won't be watching this season coming up. I like the idea behind TBL, but the way they go about it is a little harsh. If they were really concerned about changing peoples' lives, why do they have a vote-off? I mean I get that that's a facet of reality TV, but maybe their new angle should be to figure out a different method for all that. Obviously the people on that show need to lose weight and change their mindset, but I think that could be accomplished without kicking people off the show. The whole game part of the show totally turns me off. If you're going to help, then HELP. And the workouts are ridiculous and completely unsustainable in real life. There's no way I could work out for 6 hours straight and still be a wife, mother and employee (not to mention the other dozen hats I wear).
I think it could be a good show but it's getting more and more into exploiting contestants and I really dont' like that.

Okay I'm a semi-reality show fan but didn't like this one.
Granted I only watched a few episodes but it just didn't grab
me....sort of a very poorly written Sex and the City.

It makes me emotional jus****ching it.

I saw an episode on Sat or Sun...and it was really hard to watch. In that particular episode the women wanted to find new dates and so they hosted a dating party...and it was just a mess. Made me so uncomfortable.

I will not be watching again.

and I haven'****ched Biggest Loser since the first season...how awful that they wanted to target military spouses!

As always I enjoy reading your post, love honesty.
I have no****ched the show but have had obese people tell me they are happy with their weight (LIE). The description of sitting on the couch was perfect - been there done that NEVER want to go back. 

I have no****ched the show and I doubt that I ever will.  I am all for ways to boost your self esteem....we need that but exploiting a condition that in a lot of ways is an illness is just wrong.  When I watched Biggest Loser it is so painful to watch because those body types I see on the screen are the same body type I see in the mirror.  Then to see how they(we) are treated...like animials in a circus...yelling and screaming at us...pushing us to jump and fall...and if you look at the trainers faces...especially Julian...they are almost smirking.  All for ratings.  Nope no thank you!

I agree! I was embarassed to be a big girl and watch that show - it wasn't realistic - everything felt staged and extremely stereotypical! Oh they go to a club and get hit on by guys - oh wait they are black guys - because only black guys like big girls. OH and don't get me started on the BBW party - what a trainwreck! It makes me glad that in a few months I will be out of this category for good. Sigh - the only positive show I have found about a plus size woman is Drop Dead Diva. Thanks for your honesty - nice to have the male perspective!