Feeling Sad

I don't know what my problem is.  I've lost almost 35 pounds so far but I can't stop feeling sad.  I still am so pre-occupied with thoughts of food.  I almost feel as though I'm in mourning.  I thought for sure this would pass by now.  Dare I say I almost feel regretful?  Anyone else ever feel like this?

well I just had my surgery yesterday, and it seems like everything around me is involving food..all the comercials..my hubby eating, so I am also going through my own specialy mourning and figure it will get worse befrore I started purees in three weeks.

 I remember watching TV in the hospital and being shocked by how many of the commercials were for food, pure junk food. I never noticed it so keenly as I did then. 

I think my awareness of them is back to normal now. I don't see them like I did then. Mushies stage was so nice and I honestly felt it went by much quicker than the full liquid faze. 

Its a normal part of the process. But it' good that you are recognizing it. You are still very early out - it will  get a little better. I would recommend either seeing a counselor, or writing in a journal. Keep track of your feelings so you can control your emotional eating.

I don't really mourn food anymore just because ive lost interest in it, but when I have to sit next to people eating my old favs, i get a little sad. But I have to remind myself that it's not like I'm on a feeding tube, I COULD eat that stuff later on, but in smaller amounts. It's not going to disappear.

Once you can get past this stage you can focus on making healthy choices. At 3 mos out, I could probably eat some pizza and ice cream and all that, but I choose not. It's not worth it to me anymore. It took me now 14 months to get to this point where I'd rather use my calories for the day on food that will benefit my body, and those are the types of choices I look forward to.

Maybe try taking up cooking - you can make some really great tasting, high quality food to get excited about instead of getting excited about the quantity. See Frisco for an example of living a great tasting post-op life :)

Thanks for the advice.  It's tough.  I have a lot of years of bad habits to undo.  I do need to see a counselor.  It's been a little tough finding one that specializes in food issues though.  I think it's hardest because I just started purees today and I feel hungry all the darn time!  I'm hoping it will pass.

I bet you'll get lots of helpful responses from the vets.

Jealousy is such an ugly thing, but I'm jealous. There! I said it!

I'd give my left love-handle to get to mourn the old me.

You are doing great! While you mourn the old you, start getting the know the new you. Can't wait to meet her too! I bet she's a hottie that wears a size 8!

It's all about perspective I guess.

You are not alone.  I understand where you are coming from .  I am only a week out.... over the weekend my boyfriend made chicken wings for the football games on Sunday.....  I was sipping on my protein.... blah.  I would have loved to have some chicken wings! 

I haven't regretted it .... however at one point I did ask  "Why on earth did I do this to myself!".

Hoping that you find peace....  and find resolution.

Hang in there, y'all.  It will get better.  Just wait until people start not recognizing you and having to look twice to make sure it's you!  You are all amazing, strong and beautiful people.  Y'all can do this!!!!

I had surgery march 1st,the first 6 weeks were awful.I to felt sad like I had lost something,now 103 pounds lighter I no longer feel sad,we went to our favorite Italian place Tuesday nite you know the little one where the food is sooooo good,I didnt even order,had salad and asked for some cheese and roasted pepers and was ok with that.I did try the bottom of a piece of bread couldnt get it down..it will get better.I acually had someone today say I was "wasting away" I had to laugh still want to lose 25 more.What a journey!!!!

 Hugs - You are NORMAL!  You just had surgery a couple of weeks ago.  Your body is now releasing tons of hormones and how you process them emotionally is often sadness!  Exercise is your friend though, it releases endorphins that make you feel happier (and it also helps your WL)!

You're doing great!  When you start eating more "real food" I'm sure you'll start feeling better!