VENTING & NEEDS ADVICE

Hi all,
Well, I am a little bit scared. This past week I have not eaten so much since before surgery. One day I ate about 3/4 box of vanilla wafers and anything else I could get my hands on. I never got sick. I know that my sleeve is a tool and I have to watch what I eat. Has anyone ever had this problem? Is my restriction gone forever? I really need some help and advice. I really don't know what is going on here. It is like my stomach is numb.

I know this past week my nerves have been very bad. My sister that pasted away, would of had a B'day this week. My Mom started crying the day before, seems no one wants to help with Mom except my other sister and myself. My brother that lives about 1 mile from Mom use to be so close to Mom, now he won't hardly come around at all. This upsets Mom so much. My brother is not easy to talk to. He was close to my sister that past away. Some of us went to his house to visit and he told my sister off because we came to visit. But, anyway it hurts me for Mom. Mom was with us that day and he had the nerve to say something about his family, Mom did not hear him.

Well, with my daughter and my sister that died, son, my nephew. I just told them I could not give them my blessing, but I will always love them and will not cause them trouble, because I am not God and who am I to judge. I think I will keep it from the rest of the family until we see what happens. My nephew's B'day is tomorrow, close to my sister, his Mom. His Mom didn't raise him, long story. Anyway they are in there 30's and one lives in Va and my daughter lives in MI. But my nephew flys about every weekend to see her.

Well, I talked about my problems to try to find out what is wrong with me, with eating so much, this is the old me. I am not asking for pity , just a friend. I know this is a WLS and I am airing out my problems, sorry.
Haven't been able to work out this week, have had sinus infection. I know working out helps with
with stress. I hope and pray everyone is doing great. I just need to get back on the horse. I have heard about a 7 day diet to check your pouch, but don't much about it.
 God Bless all.
Evie

I think what is wrong with you is that you are stressed and depressed.  Not a big surprise considering what you have gone through lately.  In addition to your grief so is everyone else in your family.  That is why your brother is so angry.  I could not explain how you could eat that much and not get sick but I can sure understand why you did eat that much.  As soon as possible start working out again to help with your stress.  Get back on you regular food and water too.  Overeating and hurting yourself with not make this situation any better.  I can't provide you with a solution but you are in my prayers.

Hi Karen,
Thank you so very much for understanding and most of all for your prayers.
God Bless
Evie

For me, baked goods like vanilla wafers, cookies, cakes, pies, are essentially slider foods - I can eat a lot and not experience restriction.  Apparently I can't rely on my "tool" to avoid these things - I have to do that myself.  My restriction is most apparent when eating on plan, especially dense protein.

That said, it can be VERY challenging to avoid our comfort foods, or eating anything really, in the face of stress, family drama, tragedy, and trying to deal with everyone else's feelings.  Therapy might help, I know for me I tend to want to prevent others from experiencing pain, something that's not in my capacity to do.  My head knows that, but my eating disorder doesn't.

For me it's practically impossible to white-knuckle it (avoid eating) in times like this, so I like having things on hand that are OK to eat,  like string cheese, jerky, yogurt or SF pudding cups, nuts (which help with the need to crunch), hard boiled eggs, and fruit pieces.  It takes some discipline and practice to be OK with eating these when what you want is vanilla wafers, crackers, and chips, but knowing they're  there can also be comforting.

Good luck sweetie!  You've been dealing with some big-time issues lately, especially with your sister's passing and the family's reaction - and your own grief.  The only way out is forward, and you'll get there......

Thank you so much Kathy,
You have helped me alot. I never knew what slider foods meant. I think God for my friends on here OH. You understood me very well. I already feel better and can breath with ease again, with help from my OH family. I really thought I was doomed.
God Bless
Evie

Stress is a horrible thing.  You don't need to do a pouch check.

Try to spend a little bit of time each day focusing on yourself.  Take long walks away from everyone.

Thank each and everyone of you for helping me, just talking to me helped so much. I have been trying to get a hold of someone to talk to, my lady moved but she told me to call her if I needed her. I have not gotten a answer from her yet. I might have to find me someone else. She was a great lady, helped me very much.
Well, at least I don't feel like I am going crazy as of right now.
Thank You all
God Bless
Evie

Evie,

Just want you to know you are a special person. You are in my thoughts and prayers.  Hope you can get a handle on the stress.  Maybe, try going on walks and looking for God's blessings in the little things in nature. 

Hi Evie, So sorry for what your family is going through. I lost my son almost 9 years ago. Grief is of course very hard to deal with and everyone deals with it differently. My daughter and I were talking just before I got on line and she was telling me how much anger she still carries due to losing her brother, I only had 2 children and 1 step daughter, so they were very close. She's going to a psychiatrist. Do you have some kind of grief group in your area, usually through a hospital. That's what I went to. It was very helpful and  I have a  supportive family. For me grief group didn't take the pain away but it help me see how people deal with grief in different ways and to see I wasn't going crazy. I have in time learned how to deal with the heartache, but it did take along time. Do some research on line on the stages of grief. My heart and prayers go out to you and your family. Try not to be upset with each other, give each other space to deal with the lost in their own way and let them know you love them and will be there for them when they are ready. God bless your mom, there is nothing more painful that I can imagine than losing your child. I cried every single day for the first 4 years. I felt I was no longer living, just existing. I still cry but not nearly as often. I wish I could help you. Have faith, God Bless.

Penny