Friendships

DrHollywood
on 10/15/11 11:04 am - Harbor City, CA
I have chills...  thank you 

I am sorry about your friend of 23 years.  sounds like she is scared, miserable, and perhaps
maybe I am assuming a little jealous.  yes the missing part can be very painful.  Keep
doing what your doing and as you become stronger,  time will tell if you will be there for her,
no matter if she hasnt been there for you.  Maybe she is sooOOooo upside her head with
her new diagnosis with diabetes and such.  Who knows, maybe she will end up with surgery.
Or maybe the friendship is over and yes very painful.  But I think we are all going to get stronger
from this.    We dont have to people please anymore.  Its time to take care of ourselves. 
right????

But in the meantime,  continue to take care of yourself.  I am proud of your journey.
Loooooooooong Hugs 

                      ✿ L♦O♦V♦E ✿ & ✿ P♦E♦A♦C♦E ✿ღ ✿ & F♦R♦I♦E♦N♦D♦S ✿ ღ
                         "Keeping The Faith!"   "Slim by Summer!"
                                    HW: 250 - SW: 241  - CW: 154.7GW: 140  

     
 1 month: 22 pounds (2162 months: 12.2 pounds (203.8)  3 months: 10.6  (193.2)
 4 months: 9.7  lbs  (183.5)  5 Months:   6  pounds  (177.5 ) 
6 Months: 12 lbs ( 165.5)
 7 Months 7.1 lbs (158.4) 8 Months +1.6 pounds(159.8) 9 Months 2.7 pounds (157.1)
10 Months 8.1 lbs (149) 11 months +2 pounds ( 151) 1 YEAR!!!  2.6 pounds (148.4)


  
                                  Hit "One-derland April 9th, 2011   (199.7)

                                  "Half-Way Goal" April 25th, 2011 (194.8)

                                  "Happyland 80`s" May 14, 2011  (189.6)

                                   "Groovyland 70`s"  June 20th 2011  (179.9)

                                    " HippyDippyland 60's"  July 16th  (169.8)

                                       " CQQL-land 50`s"  August 25th ( 159.8)

                        "Normal BMI"   24.8  October 21st, 2011 (154.5) I am 5`6

                                 "AWESOME-land 40's" Dec 1st 2011  (149)

                              "Century Club 100 Pounds"  Dec 1st 2011  (149)

                                        ' ONE YEAR SURGIVERSARY!!!"

                                           Two Year Surgiversary!!!"


                                                                     

Crunchy As Can Be
on 10/16/11 12:58 am - NY
It's such a shame when our "friends" can't see that they're not being supportive and gracious and really, true friends when they walk out as we start to behave in ways that are better for us overall. It's as if they see our personal improvement as a personal affront and decide to step out just when we need them so that they maybe can save face and not have to deal with the fact they they're still engaging in those dangerous or unhealthy behaviours that we are working hard to change in our own lives.

Well Mary, you don't need those kind of people. What we all need is support for when the going gets tough and for when we decide to really stand up and do what's right for our own bodies and our own lives... and though I've been thankful to find that support in my family and close friends, I know that we can also all come here for exactly the type of support we need during our "getting healthy" period and ongoing!
 ~~Emily~~
       
DrHollywood
on 10/16/11 1:07 am, edited 10/16/11 1:07 am - Harbor City, CA
Well Said Crunchy! 
Thank youuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu!!!!

By the way..I love love love your profile pic...  HAAAWT!!! Beautiful!

                      ✿ L♦O♦V♦E ✿ & ✿ P♦E♦A♦C♦E ✿ღ ✿ & F♦R♦I♦E♦N♦D♦S ✿ ღ
                         "Keeping The Faith!"   "Slim by Summer!"
                                    HW: 250 - SW: 241  - CW: 154.7GW: 140  

     
 1 month: 22 pounds (2162 months: 12.2 pounds (203.8)  3 months: 10.6  (193.2)
 4 months: 9.7  lbs  (183.5)  5 Months:   6  pounds  (177.5 ) 
6 Months: 12 lbs ( 165.5)
 7 Months 7.1 lbs (158.4) 8 Months +1.6 pounds(159.8) 9 Months 2.7 pounds (157.1)
10 Months 8.1 lbs (149) 11 months +2 pounds ( 151) 1 YEAR!!!  2.6 pounds (148.4)


  
                                  Hit "One-derland April 9th, 2011   (199.7)

                                  "Half-Way Goal" April 25th, 2011 (194.8)

                                  "Happyland 80`s" May 14, 2011  (189.6)

                                   "Groovyland 70`s"  June 20th 2011  (179.9)

                                    " HippyDippyland 60's"  July 16th  (169.8)

                                       " CQQL-land 50`s"  August 25th ( 159.8)

                        "Normal BMI"   24.8  October 21st, 2011 (154.5) I am 5`6

                                 "AWESOME-land 40's" Dec 1st 2011  (149)

                              "Century Club 100 Pounds"  Dec 1st 2011  (149)

                                        ' ONE YEAR SURGIVERSARY!!!"

                                           Two Year Surgiversary!!!"


                                                                     

BigCaliSmile
on 10/17/11 8:42 am - La Puente, CA

I have very few friends and the friends I do have it seems never had a weight problem. I am so glad food is never really a topic of conversation or self hatred of our bodies. I feel you find much more meaningful relationships when you move beyond the table conversations. You are doing so well on your journey..Wow
Just my thoughts,
Jan

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