Support and Surgery
I need to vent! My husband is being a jerk. This process has gone really slow
and he is being downright abusive. I have made an effort to exercise regularly
and do my best to eat the right things. However, since things have moved so
slow I have had a tendency to grab a cookie or eat something not on plan to
deal with the stress. My husband is being a food cop. He noticed I had eaten
cookies and told me I do not want to lose weight and if I don't get my act together
that I should leave. He is very thin and has zero tolerance for my weight.
He is one of those people who stares, and makes fun of those with weight issues.
When we go out he doesn't walk beside me. He walks in front of me so no one
will know we are together. His behavior is hurtful, and I feel like I do not have the
support I need. I would leave but my retirement money is not enough for me to
pay bills and medical insurance. Life can sometimes be hard. I called the surgeons
office today to see where I stand, and was told I have been cleared to see the surgeon
and need to just keep waiting for an opening. A lot of people are on the list. I am
hanging in there and hopefully they will get to me within the next couple of weeks.
I will be given a surgery date when I do see the surgeon. That will mean waiting for
several more weeks until surgery day. Wish me luck. Thanks for allowing me to
vent.
and he is being downright abusive. I have made an effort to exercise regularly
and do my best to eat the right things. However, since things have moved so
slow I have had a tendency to grab a cookie or eat something not on plan to
deal with the stress. My husband is being a food cop. He noticed I had eaten
cookies and told me I do not want to lose weight and if I don't get my act together
that I should leave. He is very thin and has zero tolerance for my weight.
He is one of those people who stares, and makes fun of those with weight issues.
When we go out he doesn't walk beside me. He walks in front of me so no one
will know we are together. His behavior is hurtful, and I feel like I do not have the
support I need. I would leave but my retirement money is not enough for me to
pay bills and medical insurance. Life can sometimes be hard. I called the surgeons
office today to see where I stand, and was told I have been cleared to see the surgeon
and need to just keep waiting for an opening. A lot of people are on the list. I am
hanging in there and hopefully they will get to me within the next couple of weeks.
I will be given a surgery date when I do see the surgeon. That will mean waiting for
several more weeks until surgery day. Wish me luck. Thanks for allowing me to
vent.
vent away :-) sounds like alot of the weight u need to lose is him 
I completely understand about the financial thing tho... it's never easy... maybe start trying to save little by little and in time u can get out... That kind of relationship can't be good in general, but u add on that an eating problem and i'm sure it can be an outright disaster...
Hang in there and vent as much as u need to! Everytime u wanna eat sumthing bad for u, come ***** about him instead!!!
Good luck!
I completely understand about the financial thing tho... it's never easy... maybe start trying to save little by little and in time u can get out... That kind of relationship can't be good in general, but u add on that an eating problem and i'm sure it can be an outright disaster...Hang in there and vent as much as u need to! Everytime u wanna eat sumthing bad for u, come ***** about him instead!!!
Good luck!
HW:344 SW:329 CW:207.8 Losses: pre-op - 15/ post-op - 121.2
M1 - 25 M2 - 18 M3 - 14.2 M4 - 11.8 M5 - 14 M6 - 9.6
M7 - 6.6 M8 - 7.0 M9 - 5.6 M10 - 7.8 M11 - 1.6+ M12- ??
Oh my gracious!!!! I 10000000000 % agree with bigtigger!!!! He is clearly the weight to lose!!! Sickening and NO ONE EVER DESERVES THIS!!!!! I have a sneaking suspicion he is wwwwaaaayyyyy insecure and it makes him feel good he can slam you for your weight!!! Interesting to think what his behavior will be like when you lose!!!! He probably wants you to stay how you are because he sees it as your weakness and when the weight is gone, well so may be his "power"- as seen thru his sick mind. Please leave him, stay with a friend or family member, please!!!! I am going to pray for you
Hi Barbara,
I too couldn't help but wonder what he will be like once you get sleeved and start losing. It will be very interesting to see whether or not he becomes more supportive. He certainly doesn't seem to understand the concept of support yet. You may find that once you get on the loser's bench that you start looking at other options you never considered before.
I'm doing some online courses now, even though I'm retired. Hopefully these courses will allow me to work a bit from home eventually. So you never know what the future will bring.
Hang in there and keep taking it one day at a time.
I too couldn't help but wonder what he will be like once you get sleeved and start losing. It will be very interesting to see whether or not he becomes more supportive. He certainly doesn't seem to understand the concept of support yet. You may find that once you get on the loser's bench that you start looking at other options you never considered before.
I'm doing some online courses now, even though I'm retired. Hopefully these courses will allow me to work a bit from home eventually. So you never know what the future will bring.
Hang in there and keep taking it one day at a time.
It certainly doesn't sound like a good situation. Hopefully you can find something other then a cookie to deal with stress? Then, after you have lost your weight maybe you'll be in a better position to move on without him. I'd rather be alone then live miserable with someone that doesn't love me. I know it is hard when you rely on the other person for finances. So many women end up staying for that reason :(
Wishing you the best of luck and happiness.
Wishing you the best of luck and happiness.
I went to the kitchen and threw away the rest of the cookies. It is a step in the
right direction. Just sitting by the phone and waiting for the call from the
surgeons office. I will feel better when I have that pre-op appointment because
I will get my surery date at the same time. Thank you for your support and good
wishes.
Barbara
right direction. Just sitting by the phone and waiting for the call from the
surgeons office. I will feel better when I have that pre-op appointment because
I will get my surery date at the same time. Thank you for your support and good
wishes.
Barbara
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