Boyfriends not going with me to surgery

If he doesn't treat you good when you're down and need support, he doesn't deserve to see you when you're at your best!
Drop some weight (him) before you cross over to the losers bench! He'll be kicking himself later

That's a instant 350 pounds!

 Wow. Sounds like my husband. We are separated but he said he would be there for support, well then I was "using" him for the surgery and now he's tried to tell me I don't need it. So therefore my mother and oldest daughter (18) are going with me. I told him I didn't need him there so don't go out of his way. I hate it, but what else do you do?  So I feel for you!  Hold your chin up and do what you need to do for YOU!  :-)

lol that sounds like my boyfriend too...like how are you using him???  So strange it's just say one thing and stick to it.

 Well I'm not!  Lol. He thought just to take me to appointments and be there for surgery.....I have a mother and sister and an 18 year old daughter. I don't need him if he doesn't want to be there. Not to mention cousins and aunts!

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OK I know what you or going through my girl friend did not support my surgery and she also claim that she was not going with me to my surgery my mom could not come because she had to watch the kids for me but she supported my surgery. I refuse to tell my girlfriend my surgery date why should i she didn't support me. I made up my mind that i did not need any stress before surgery my ass was already scared. So I told my mom if i my GF my surgery date and she did not show up it was so dam over. so i told her the date and to my surprise her ass was at the hospital before I was, she even visit me and pick me up when i was being discharge. So thankful for that don't get me wrong she don't agree with the surgery but she finally admit that her seeing me in the hospital and not bring able to eat. made her realize that WLS is not the easy way out like she always thought. I told her dieting to me is the easy way out. I will diet for 6 days and on the 7 day I will just pig out eat everything i wanted, but with 8 day post op I know there is no more pigging out for me. now back to you don't let your boyfriend stress you out. you are doing this for you and only you be happy and let god have your back good luck and stay bless

I'm glad she went.  You are stronger than me.  I'm so bad with giving ultimatums.  Hopefully...I'll get stronger.

I have been with my husband for 12 years and he was not on board with my surgery. I talked to him prior to surgery and let him know I understood his position on the surgery but for my health I was moving forward full steam ahead. He didn't go with me to surgery and wasn't there when I woke up from surgery even though he promised me he would be there for me. After surgery was hell for awhile but we are still togther and I am 5 months post op. I know our situations aren't the same since I am married (for better or worse) and you aren't. If I have any advice for you I would say run...far far away from the relationship but that is only my opinion!