I'm Being Selfish and I Know It

I know this is going to sound totally immature but I am struggling with this in my brain right now. 

My husband is now sick. He's catching a cold or something and saying he has a sore throat and sore joints. 

I don't think that's fair. I am only 5 days out of surgery and this is supposed to be my down time. He has barely had to do anything for me because I've been healing so well but I do get tired very quickly I am noticing. I don't want him to be sick, I want him to still take care of me! 

I know that's totally selfish and hateful but this was my scheduled time to heal. I know this is going to make this week so much more difficult. He already wants me to get up and get my son ready in the morning and drive him to school. Maybe he's just not understanding how truly exhausted my body is right now. I'm trying to be strong though. 

I'm sorry. I'm having irrational thoughts. I'm blaming the lack of carbs. 

 He's being a baby!!! You are in far worse shape to be doing those things than he is!!

Agreed!  Sometimes it is good to be selfish and sometimes you have to be selfish.  This is a time where both apply!

Not selfish at all....You need to heal and adjust to the reduced calorie intake. Be careful you don't catch whatever he has....that could put a whole new twist on your healing.

That sucks that his throat hurts. Tell him mine does too, but I got up at 5am this morning and worked a 10 hour shift. I guess that makes me the big boy, and I'm a girl.

It's not even safe for you to be driving. You may feel okay in the grand scheme of things but exhaustion is just as dengerous if not moreso than driving drunk. Boohoo buddy, take the kid to school and come home for a nap.

I hate to sound harsh, but he's being a total baby.  Do you have anyone else to drive your son to school?  I wouldn't risk it at 5 days out.  

NO WAY!!! You make him drive the kids to school! You shouldn't even be driving! And stay as far away from him as you can so you don't catch whatever it is he has....that is ALL you need right now. NOT selfish! You need to take care of you starting now....go get him!

Tell him you understand how his throat hurts since you just had multiple tubes, including a bougie down yours! I'm sorry you are going through this and hope you get your much needed rest. (((hugs)))

OMG the dreaded man cold.  The world must stop spinning.  LOL. Sorry but it is suck it up buttercup for him, its a cold not a major surgery.  Reminds me of when I was in hospital for hysterectomy, the lady in the bed next to me was in for same thing and all her husband did when he visited was complain about how his back was sore.  I thought my husband was going to lose his sh*t, and go over and give the guy a talking to. Hope your recovery is smooth and your hubby grabs a set and takes care of things for you.

Unfortunately for him, it's not an option for him to go down with something minor like a bad cold.

Let him know that you feel bad but you CAN NOT do it yet. CAN NOT. It's not ok for you to overextend yourself do soon after major surgery.
Sorry, but you just CAN'T.