"I had surgery and after I'd lost some weight, I decided to stick with it and keep on...

I love your post.

A few years ago a friends sister had lap band and she and I were the roughly the same age, weight, height, gained after kids, etc. She had her LBL and breast aug done about a year ago and is looking better than she did in her 20's. So, for 3 years I had been thinking I would do that as my last resort. Went to my dr to try to get on phentermine, found out I had thyroid issues went to endo, then found out I had pcos, worked out like mad, reduced calories to no avail. my last appt w my endo this summer I was out of options. On highest dose of metformin, dr. said we can continue to medicate this issue or you can choose a drastic alternative. Have you heard about the sleeve? And my journey began.

My point, finally, is I believe everyone gets to this decision to have wls when the time is right for THEM. You could have started the wheels in motion for this woman. You never know when your friend might be ready to accept your help and this may ultimately be a great choice for her. It's great that you'll be there when and if that time comes. I applaud you for your non disclosure, if you will, on a larger scale. Life does go on, great point!

That's an excellent point, about us doing this at our own time.  I wouldn't know about the sleeve if somebody hadn't decided to blog about it and share the journey, so I'm grateful for that. But the timing happened to coincide with my husband and me deciding to investigate the surgerical option for weight loss for my health.

I'm almost 4 weeks out from getting my sleeve..only 6 people know..no one from work..and they will not know...I'm a very private person and this was about me and for me and I do enjoy sharing at the monthly support group meetings I attend because we learn from each other and share information.  I'm down 22 lbs from starting my liquid diet/surgery..and loving every day!  Good Luck!

Congratulations!  You're doing great! And you'll be really happy you made this choice.

 I'm a private person and I don't need to disclose to ppl I work with

I love your post. I hardly told anyone- my immediate family (but not extended family), boss, and 2 friends I've known over half of my life- before surgery. After surgery I find myself somewhat more willing to talk. My policy is that if it's someone I'm friends with or see regularly I'll be honest when they ask, but I'm not going to volunteer information. So far the only one to ask is my closest male friend. I almost lied- I couldn't imagine telling him the truth. But I've never lied to him, and now wasn't the time to start. I took a deep breath and spilled it. Know what he said? "You don't have to hide that from me." Now he says just enough to let me know he cares, but not enough to make me uncomfortable. It's just an occasional "You're looking good" or "How's everything going since your surgery? Feeling ok?". 

I'm going to see some friends tonight that I haven't seen since just before surgery, and I'm sure they will say something. They are kind people and I expect them to say something about how I'm looking or something. I honestly haven't decided what I'll say. I mean, who loses almost 50 pounds in 3 months? What other explanation could there be?

I can understand your need to remain private. It's not an easy thing to talk about! Which is why I love coming here- tot alk to people who understand. No guilt. No shame.