Surgery on Wednesday and having scarey thoughts
I'm both excited and scared. Excited to start a new phase of my life, healthier and happier. But scared that I won't ever get to that phase. I'm scared of complications, or being sick of everything. I'm having difficulties with my boyfriend and I just wonder what will happen when I'm at some point happy with myself. Kind of scared to moved forward into the unknown.
Hi! Sorry to hear you are having bad thoughts and issues with the bf. I have not yet had the surgery- I am awaiting approval. But I wish you the best of luck and there are so many amazing helpful people here. I hope to hear of your success and everything along with that after surgery. If you ever need someone to chat with- I am here =) Its very exciting and scary. I am scared and I havent even gotten an approval yet- if I do at all. I get scared every day. But reading and seeing so many people here who have success keeps me motivated. Chin up and GOOD LUCK =) post when you can after surgery!
There are a lot of unknowns, true. But you're as prepared as you possibly can be. You've done your research, you know the eating plan, you have the necessary foods ready. Sometimes you just have to take that leap of faith into the unknown and trust that you're doing the right thing for yourself and your future.
As to the boyfriend, he can either get onboard or move over. You have to put yourself first during this time. This is all about taking care of ourselves for a change.
I was last Wednesday, and most of my worries were for naught! My only problem was post-op nausea, and once I ditched pain meds, that resolved pretty quickly!
Today was my first full liquid day -- no problems getting my liquids and liquid protein in. So I am hoping all the best for you.
Sorry about the BF difficulties -- but better to resolve those sooner rather than later. It's time to be happy with yourself now -- there will always be "something" that gets in way of your happiness, if you allow it. You are making a big change for yourself -- embrace you you are and move forward with joy!
Wishing you peaceful thoughts!
It is normal too feel scared of the unknown. Look forward to being happy, and everyone that really cares about you will see it one day and know you did the rite thing for YOU. As heavy people, we learn to put everyones needs in front of our own, because we lack self worth. I am telling you, I lost the man out of my life after surgery, he wanted me to be miserable, so I would feel bad and stay with him. It was the best thing that came out of my surgery, getting him away from me. He never wanted to see me full of confidence and loving and nurturing myself. When I did, I took care of me, I learned that there is only one YOU! Do this for YOU, and don't look back. My family didn't want me too have surgery either, but when they saw me happy, and confident, and not sick all the time, they were so glad I didn't listen to them. It is scarey, butdon't let fear get in your way, just take it one day at a time and turn to this site, foe support, it is the only way I made it through. I forget that supporting others on here actually really keeps me on track.
I wish you could know how happy you will be, ,,,
best of luck...
Jojo