More changes that just weight loss and not all good!!

jan1114
on 12/12/12 2:20 am

So I'm 3 weeks out and although I've hit a stall, I'm confident that the scale will start moving again.  I wish sooner than later, but whatever!!

A week after I got home from the hospital, my fiance/boyfriend, whatever you want to call him, moved out.  He felt I was doing this surgery to find a better man...I know that sound stupid, but there you have it.

So besides having the emotional ups and downs after this surgery I have this break up to deal with and I don't have food as my comforter any more.  I'm also dealing with the financial issues of his moving out and the emotions of my pre-teen daughter to happened to have liked him alot.

On top of that I know I'm not getting in the right about of proteins but I can't eat more than I already am!  It hurts if I try!

Now I'm constipated which makes everything just that more uncomfortable. 

This holiday season is going to suck!

 

NeedsSleep
on 12/12/12 2:30 am - IL
VSG on 09/20/12

I am SO sorry this is happening to you.  At exactly 3 weeks post-op, my husband of 15 years told me he wanted a divorce so I do feel your pain.  I have two daughters, one is 9 and the other is 11.  Take it a day at a time.  That's all you can do.  Remember, you don't have a choice but to forge ahead.  The reason he gave you is just an excuse so DO NOT beat yourself up for it.  Same as my husband.  His reason is just an excuse.  You can't make someone want to be with you.

Look at the bright side, when you recover from your surgery, you'll be losing weight and you'll look and feel better.  It's all going to be a brand new start for you.  Trust me on this one!

As far as the proteins, I'm not getting all I need either but just do the best you can.  The constipation WILL go away. 

Don't let this spoil your holidays.  You worked hard to get to where you are.  Don't let anything drag you down!  I'm always here if you need someone to talk to and I MEAN THAT!

Good luck!

HW: 292 - SW: 237 - GW: 165

(the first 55 lbs. was from Weight Watchers, over 2 years)

jan1114
on 12/12/12 3:23 am

Thank you so much. I do really need someone to talk to about all this, it's so much change in a short amount of time.  I know that it will all work out, but my god, couldn't they have given us a little time to recover?  I'm so emotional right now!  I just hope that there is such a thing as Karma.

I just hope I get in enough proteins to not lose my hair!!!  That would be an even further set back! 

 

MuttLover
on 12/12/12 2:35 am
VSG on 11/14/12

I am so sorry - -sending you hugs!  

Please -- don't let Christmas suck!  You have a pre-teen daughter who needs to know that world does not revolve around a jerky guy who hurt you all by leaving.  Yep, the money will be a problem, and the learning new ways to cope will be hard.  But your daughter needs a strong mom right now since she's lost the man she thought would be there for her too. 

We want our lives, and especially our holidays, to be perfect for our kids.  Make it the best you can, and that's all you can do.  

This surgery is about a better future for you and your daughter, and the opportunities that a healthier you will bring.  It will be a tough for a few weeks, but you are strong!  

 

  

Starting weight: 260; Surgery Weight: 250; Month 1: -15.6; Month 2: -11.8; Month 3: -11.4;  Month 4: -7.4  Month 5: -8.6; Month 6: -3; Month 7 -3.8; Month 8 -7; Month 9: stall; Month 10: -4.4; Month 11: - 2.6; Month 12:-3.4

swizzlequeen
on 12/12/12 3:47 am

MuttLover's counsel is wise and loving words indeed...

Your daughter is fortunate to have a mother who is taking steps towards better health that will ultimately mean more time, and more quality time, in your daughter's life...

I hope that you might have other support and family available to you who can love you and your daughter...in the meantime, you have US on this website!!

I am sorry that the two of you are going thru this...

 

Keith L.
on 12/12/12 3:41 am - Navarre, FL
VSG on 09/28/12

Look at it this way. You dodged a bullet. He did you a favor. What kind of man is he? First of all he severly lacks confidence if he thought you were losing weight so you could find a better man. He doesn't sound like much of a man. Thank god you didn't marry him. If he can't support you through this, what happens when something tragic happens. You are better off.

The rest will fall into place. Just focus on your plan. It will take all of your energy and focus right now to stick to it. Protein first. And drink, drink, drink.

For constipation: Fiber Gummies, Myralax, and Colace as well as fiber rich veggies if you have room left.

VSG: 9/28/2012 - Dr. Sergio Verboonen  My Food/Recipe Blog - MyBigFatFoodie.com

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texasrigdiver
on 12/12/12 10:59 am - TX
DS on 11/29/12

Jan1114 and Needssleep,

Speaking for men, I'm sorry those guys bailed and did such a poor job of representing how real men deal with problems. it was their low self esteem and lack of confidence that drove their decisions.There's always two sides to every story so even if they had a legitimate issue they couldn't work out, their timing was inexcusable and highlights how weak their character is. It really kind of ****** me off.

The best revenge is living well. Hopefully, in time, both of you will be much better off.

"...the sun is the same in a relative way but were older, shorter of breath, and one day closer to death..." Pink Floyd 

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jan1114
on 12/12/12 12:35 pm
Thank you. Those are very kind words. I don't blame all men, Justusost recent choice!!
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