The Honeymoon is Over

I met my husband in beginning of September of 2004, we got engaged three weeks later. So when we got married in July 2005, a lot of people thought that we would never last. First, we were young. I was 24 and he was 25. He had two kids from an ex girlfriend. If he couldn't make it work with his kids' mother than how would he ever make it work with you. And mostly importantly "You said you would never get married." So of course, it would never work.

The first year had its up and downs but we got into a nice rhythm but hey "you are newlyweds" . The second year we got well the honeymoon is almost over so this relationship can't last too much longer. We celebrated our 2nd anniversary on 7/30/07.  As I was driving home from work on 8/3/07, I was in a car accident. Long and short of it, jaws of life, 2 broken legs, infections, and hospitalized for 30 days during which I had 7 surgeries. I was sent home in a wheelchair and because I was fat, my wheelchair did not go into the bathroom. I had to use a commode in the middle of my living room. Because I could not put any weight on my legs, I occasionally needed assistance in the clean up department. I had to take sponge baths while sitting on the sofa. Yep, the honeymoon was over. If he was another guy, he might have left. But no, he patiently helped me with my recovery. He supported me financially and emotionally through the months that followed. We had many ups and downs since that time in our life. Our marriage had been okay. This event changed the whole thing. It showed us and the world that although the "honeymoon" and "newlywed" phase of our lives was over, that it truly was just the beginning of our lives together.

Today, it my six month anniversary. I have lost 75.4lbs. I have noticed that the weight loss has slowed down. I am not as militant as I could be with my numbers. Maybe if I had, I would be at goal by now or have a better total. I don't always meet my protein goals and I have occasionally had a glass of wine. I am aware and accept all my mistakes. I know that the honeymoon phase between my sleeve and I is over.  It is okay. I am happy with my progress and I accept that there is a long road ahead for me.  This was not about a single event for me. It was not about the wedding (surgery). It was about the marriage that my sleeve and I have made. The commitment to each other. My sleeve committed to helping me and I committed to making use of its powers. Now the real fun begins, the struggles intensify and you work harder for the happiness. I am ready to keep working on it.

You can do it Iz!  You are doing awesome!   See you tomorrow night?

Not this month. The whole house is sick. My coworkers are trying to convince me to go to Urgent Care to rule out pneumonia. Blah!

Oh no!!!  Feel better soon!

I got married the day after I turned 18. Yeah, we weren't supposed to last either. We celebrated 20 years last month :)

Congrats, but you know what? The "honeymoon" might be over, but I still enter "honeymoon periods" so you know what? Enjoy the day to day life, struggle during the bad times, and bask in the good ones.

You got this!

Candy,

  I live for our "honeymoon periods" after 33 years I enjoy them more than ever~Great quote!

Izabella, Never believe the naysayers, you are doing great* Hope you and the family feel better soon, hugs*

I don't believe in the honeymoon period , I think people start losing slower because they weigh less , you still have a small stomach and if you fill it with the right stuff and the right amount you have to lose, if your body burns 1500 cal and you only eat 800 it needs to burn something ,if you stay on plan that will be fat ,its not like rny or ds where you start absorbing more cals after a while you stomach will only stretch to around 1-1/2 cups and nothing forces you to fill it up with junk 

so stick to your plan and go on a second honeymoon  

Ps don't forget the sexy cloths

You have complemented perfectly my post about my stall - I am also six months (and a week or so) out and indeed am noticing a slow down in the weight loss as well as in my militancy. But yes, while the honeymoon may be over, the marriage is as strong as ever, perhaps even stronger, and we are committed to each other! You said it perfectly! Best of luck to you and I am sure that you will make it and lots more honeymoon phases (with the same guy and same sleeve!) are ahead!

Izabelle....... Congrats on 6 months!!!

75lbs. in 6 months is very respectable !!!! (your doing great!!!)

Some people get the term "Honeymoon Period" or "Honeymoon Phase" misconstrued......

The first 6 months are deemed the Honeymoon period because for most it is when WL is easiest........ It does not mean it's over, unless you make it that way.

I loved your post and your analogy........ spot on !!!!

Take what you have learned in this first six months...... regroup and put your "Phase 2" into place. Just think how much more you know about this than when you first started !!!!

"Now the fun begins"

You can do this !!!! Regroup, tighten it up and you'll be fine !!!

frisco