Mean people

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I also agreed with DEO32713 and data chick and didn't think they were being rude at all, they were simply explaining to the poster that they needed to be more clear about what they want so someone can help them. To that particular poster there were a couple of people that seemed to have a lot of patience. There were a lot of things about that particular poster that didn't make sense. That being said, she has posted from way farther back in the archives and was suggested by someone else that she was a " Troll" and is just trying to stir things up on the forum by acting a certain way and from what I can see it looks like it is working. I think the great thing about this forum is that there is something for everyone. I do agree that I have seen some people be rude, but really it is impossible to interpret tone in an chat. In order to get your needs met, you have to be clear, if you can't even speak clearly enough to express what's wrong and what your wanting, it may be better not to post. And truly that girl needs to get some information from her doctor or she's going to end up hurting herself because she seems to lack comprehension. On a end note I just want to tell the VETS to keep posting and sharing information, it is so valuable to me and I know to others. This site wouldn't exist or be nearly as knowledgeable without you.

I think true meanness is uncalled for, however, this forum is no different than real life...sometimes questions are met with helpfulness, sometimes sarcasm, sometimes rudeness, etc.

I think the perceived meanness is more about frustration than trying to be rude. It scares people that have been on this board for awhile (at least it does for me and I've only been on it for 6 months) when people aren't being more accountable for educating themselves on a life changing and altering surgery.

While it might seem like no big deal when a poster asks "I'm one week out what should I be eating" it is 1) scary that you wouldn't have figured that out before getting 80% of your stomach removed and 2) indicative of a lack of initiative on your part to go back 2-3 pages on this forum and find the answer.

I think there is a difference between what you are saying by asking if "anyone is going through what I'm going through" and asking a question like the one above.

I would hazard a guess that there is a direct correlation between a person's success with this tool and the amount of initiative and accountability they have taken in their journey.

Just my thoughts...know that this is an open forum and you have every right to ask whatever question you want...just be prepared for any/all answers...dont be afraid to use the block button good luck!

Nikke,

I have to say...I never comment on these kinds of threads...but I was nodding so much in agreement with you that I made myself dizzy!

Bravo my friend!

And BTW: You are rocking that sleeve!!! You go girl!!!!!

~Deb

You are so wise...for someone so young! Gives me hope for my daughters.

My new favorite quote is from Will Smith's new movie.

 “Fear is not real. It is a product of thoughts you create. Do not misunderstand me. Danger is very real. But Fear is a choice."

Never be afraid to post something because SOMEONE who means nothing to your over life and well being might talk out their ass.

 

I think a lot can be lost in translation as in everyone relying  on text messaging....I had a brother in law text me a sympathy message when my brother died....REALLY? But we chose to use this forum as our method of support so I will roll with it .....thanks!

Yep, that was not nice either, lol. He knew better.

OMG. Grow the hell up people. Most people who've followed me here know that I'm generally pretty nice, but man I am sick of seeing posts like this.

How do you people function in society? Are people nice to you all the time? If they are where do you live because I'd like to move there. 

"Oh, I'm so scared to post because someone might be mean to me...." Then don't post. Go away. If you're too scared to ask a question because someone might not leave you some sugar-coated answer then you're setting yourself up for failure in your journey. As for me, I'll take the good with the bad because I want to learn and be successful. I'll be a big girl and sift through the answers and choose what works best for me. 

Are snide people only from the Northeast? That's where I live and I've met plenty before. It seems like they all must reside here because clearly they're foreign to posters who live where it must be sunshine and rainbows 24/7. 

WORD TO THE WISE: PEOPLE PLACATING YOU IS WHAT GOT YOU FAT!!!! (this goes for EVERYONE in some form or another)

Phew. Glad I got that off my chest. 

I'm from the Northeast, and I can be a witch on wheels.  :)  :)

 

Haha, it must be the cold weather. It makes us crankier.