Being triggered!

I love this board and it has been a good source of support for me.  I enjoy the debates and hearing the various opinions and then making my own informed decision and/or researching further.  I have no ill will against anybody and/or their opinions but staying on here right now is very unhealthy for me.

Unfortunately, today I have realized that the toxic infighting is triggering me to snack and eat mindlessly and I can't let that takeover.  I am feeling very stressed out and I am not even directly involved.  Even posts that I think are not going to be on the carb argument point fingers back at others and I have to get away for me.

I am going to get off the board for a while and hope that things settle down.  If they don't then I will have to leave this board and all of the wonderful people because I can't handle the infighting on a place that is suppose to be here to support others.  It is stressing me out too much.  I know that this may mean that I am weak to some but I need to do what is best for me and this situation is not best for me.

Good luck to everyone!

Sorry you've made that decision but I understand... I pretty much only lurk a couple times a week because its not worth it for me to become involved in arguments, debates, fighting, popularity & ******g contests, etc...
I take what I need/want & ignore the rest... would advise any & everyone to do similar

Jackie,

I mean this in the most caring way possible. You gotta let go a little bit. The things on here are just what you have said, varying opinions, ideas, and experiences. The fighting here is the same as like fighting on a TV show. Its still a safe place, no one is asking you to take sides. Just sit back and enjoy the show. It will be over soon enough. How about this for a little diversion, go and block everyone except for me. My **** is fun, and funny!

That being said, you can't let stresses affect your self control. YOU are in control. YOU are in charge. YOU decide what goes in your mouth no matter what your body says.

NO EXCUSES!

Now, Who's in charge?

I think it is childish and petty and really all three involved should be ashamed.  I almost cancelled my account yesterday but decided to just ignore any posts by all three of them which is what I've been doing for sometime.  All three of them say the same things over and over and over anyway.  Don't let a  little leaven ruin the whole site for you.  I like reading about success stories and seeing the transformation pictures.  Also remember there are other VSG forums you could be searching.  Don't let a few people get to you.  (Even though they post more than anybody)

Hi Jackie,

I hope you don't leave the forum.  We need many voices of kindness and compassion here.  You have always been insightful and kind, and I don't want OH  to lose you. 

This  forum means so much to me.  I don't have a lot of places where I find people who understand my struggles and my pain.  OH has been a god-send to me in this difficult decision to have surgery, and in the challenges of the recovery process.

There is so much goodness here.  I want to see it continue to blossom in support for  all of us who also struggle with obesity.

Carol