Every Time I allow myself to have wine I gain weight.  Not only I can eat more when I have wine, but having wine makes me more hungry so then I eat more.  And my choices are not the best  during that time... when then I decide to stop - not only I am better making good food choices - but I also can eat less, my restriction is much better.

How about you give up wine for a month and see if that helps.  If you can't abstain from the wine for 2-3 weeks at a time - you know you have alcohol problem... and you better do  something about that before it is too late, and 1-2  glasses turns into 1 bottle or more...

Maybe you can find new way to deal with the stress?  i.e. getting a hot bath, herbal teas... meditation,yoga...?

counseling may help... Good luck..

I definitely agree with your numbers.  After cutting back, I see the difference and it is making much better sense.  I got lost in the world of 'I should be able to do this...' and not realizing that even after all this time, no, we can't.  We never can and there always has to be moderation and consistency.  Thank you!

I know a lot of people are against the 5 day pouch test as a fad but I think it holds value if you use it to detox off the carbs.  For me it was when I had my revision and in the hospital.  Between the pain pills and horrible hospital food I was able to detox off the carbs and follow the program food plan I was given.

Because I had been so horribly undisciplined as far as eating goes I resolved to follow the post op plan to the letter, which I did until I got close to my goal weight, at which time I allowed myself some different things as I learned about maintenance.  But by then I had lost my desire for the garbage I had been eating and was able to start to learn how to eat in a healthy way.  I am still learning.

It has been over 5 years since I have eaten that way.  It is easy now since it is my new normal and those things don't call to me anymore.  But I am also aware because of my past history that it wouldn't take much to get back to the way I had been eating.  For me there is no "just a taste of" things like cake and candy and other junk I used to eat constantly.

Fortunately I have a lot of choices and I feel completely satisfied with what I do eat and don't feel deprived at all.  I think I would feel more deprived if I were to try to limit the amount of junk I ate because I know I would always want more.  A little bit would never do it for me as far as those things go.

Like the old saying, one bite is too much and a thousand bites is not enough.

Thanks LMyers. I have my food planned out and with me today. Yes I do think it just helps to talk about it and to know that we arent the only ones in this boat.  Best wishes to you!

Thank you for this response. This was really helpful and encouraging to me.