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Yes, there is definitely a Queen Bee living next door. The people we have become friendly with here are fun to be with and welcoming. Really most people are but there are always a few.
Reading a great book for hours is one of life's greatest pleasures. Though DH reads he really doesn't understand how I can do it for hours through the afternoon. He gets nudgy and generally only reads at bedtime or at the beach.
Great finds at the Thrift Shop!
Liz 5'3" HW: 219 SW: 185 GW: 125 LW: 113 Desired maintenance range: 120-125 CW: 119ish
Yeah, DMV makes more sense to me than MVD.
Must be a challenge to wash Kirby. Much easier to put a 10 pound chihuahua in the sink and use the spray faucet, then scoop him into a big towel afterwards.
Liz 5'3" HW: 219 SW: 185 GW: 125 LW: 113 Desired maintenance range: 120-125 CW: 119ish
32 degrees here! It's 2:20 pm, and the sun is already low in the sky. I am learning that when the weather is warm and sunny, I can access the joyful part of me easier. There might be a reckoning coming about whether I will be happy in this climate with only winter getaways, instead of the full snowbird experience. We will figure it out, but I can say with certainty, I miss the warm weather already.
I saw the cliches and other behaviors in my parent's Florida community too. One of the absurd cliche things I dealt with here in my community: Basketball is SUPER competitive for boys. DS played recreational basketball, which was less so, but it stopped in 6th grade. He still wanted to play, so he had to try out for a traveling team. The outrage that we tried to break in at such a late date! He was actually pretty good, but was only able to make the C squad. He didn't care, he just wanted to play. There would be activities for the Moms, like making door decorations for overnight tournaments. One was hosted by a mother of an A team player. When I got there, the A team Moms were in the family room, the B team Moms were in the kitchen, and the C team Moms were in the unheated 3 season porch in January. Nice. Surprised they actually invited us! I watched with amusement as one C team Mom kept trying to infiltrate the B team's group, and kept being rebuffed. I knew a few of the other Moms from different settings, and socialized with them just fine, but I knew to stay in my lane at these events also. Just weird.
In retrospect, the social slights I endured while raising my kids were always meted out by people I didn't really care to know or hang out with. They might have been movers and shakers in the social scene here, but they were boring, or worse, bad people. The people whose opinions I did care about were generally nice to me, and some became real friends. But yeah, it stung a little when I would be at some community event with a friend I liked, and one of the queen bees would approach and invite her to something and ignore me. Then I would remind myself that I didn't really care for her company either.
I finished a book in one setting last night. One of life's great pleasures!! I started it about 8pm, and thought, oh no, I really like this book, am I going to be able to put it down? Then remembered I could stay up to 1am iif I wanted to. So I did. : )
Today was our coffee and thrift shop morning. Found a Vera Bradley cross body bag I probably didn't need, but it was $3.50, so I own it now. Also a wine glass to replace a broken one in a large set I have. I have nicer smaller sets, but once in awhile I need 12 matching glasses, and this cheaper set can fill that need. Followed up the thrift shop adventure with a Costco run. Now I am gearing up to clean the bathroom. Living the dream!!
We really haven't encountered a lot of that in our community for the most part and there are a lot of people who are very well-off. Some self-made, some family money. But there are cliques to some extent (though they let you "in" if you attend enough similar activities).
Liz 5'3" HW: 219 SW: 185 GW: 125 LW: 113 Desired maintenance range: 120-125 CW: 119ish
Haha!Her idea is overblown. Have your cookie exchange anyway. It'll be a lot more fun and relaxed. BTW, where I come from, we'd just call her a *****!
122.1. About the same I think!
Yes, 2 more full days here and then we will take off early Wednesday morning.
Game day (night) for us today. It's going to be freaking cold! Layers will be my friend but might not be enough!
Tomorrow is POD load day. Most of the stuff is already in the garage so hopefully it will go quickly especially with the help we have hired!
Sorry about your inconsiderate neighbor's Liz. You two should definitely have been invited. I've heard rumblings of some of that kind of behavior in the community we are moving to. A friend of a friend lives in a newer section of the community where the homes are a *****eaper and smaller (since that's what the builder's can sell right now) and she indicated that some of the residents in the older sections have a we are are better than you attitude. I sure hope not! We are all equal humans no matter what our bank accounts say or what our former jobs were!
on 11/10/25 6:39 am
A few more days of high 70s, then fall/winter arrives in the form of low 50s and maybe some rain for a stretch. I will soak it up and convertible away!
Today I need to go to the DMV (I always forget what they call it here - MVD? Motor vehicle division). I paid off my SUV and they sent me a CA title that I need to have switched to AZ. I also have several phone calls to make, which I despise doing. And I need to wash dirty Kirby. He's not a stinky dog (we've had goldens who get smelly), but he doesn't smell or feel clean either.
I might go to Costco too, don't know... I'm a third of the way there at the MVD (honestly, MVD just sounds wrong)
Take care!
on 11/10/25 6:27 am
This may be one of those moments where being the more generous person is the better route, despite your feelings being understandably hurt. First, if your exclusion was intentional (which I don't think it was, seems more thoughtless rather than malicious), then you inviting them shows it didn't have the intended effect. Second, kill them with kindness. It's hard not to like people that are nice to you... Either way, it makes you the more magnanimous good guys.
