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Debra S. 21 years, 3 months ago

Hi TT!! Thanks so much for your kind words and support. I'm so excited that my big day is tomorrow but I have had years to think about it. My doctor explained to me that my weight is not totally my fault. Nobody knows why some people gain weight and others don't. The thing is that surgery is the one thing that has been proven to show the best success for people like us. It is scary and there are bad things that can happen but, I figured that if I continued the way I was going I was not going to be around too long anyway. Have faith that some day your answer will come to you. You are young and have a wonderful life ahead of you. You need to start living it!!!! I will keep you in my prayers. May god bless you!!

terlr60 21 years, 3 months ago

TT, Thank you for your kind words of support. Now right back at ya. If I were you I think that I would proceed as if you've made the decision to have the surgery and get all of the preliminary stuff out of the way. I don't know if all are exactly the same but it took me about six weeks to get approved and while I was waiting I did all the steps I could. I have severe disk problems in my back and a second opinion for disk fusion surgery is what lead me on this path. My chiropractor didn't agree with the surgery and I aksed the first orthopedic to discuss it with her and he never did so I went to the second orthopedic who advised that it would be in my best intersest to have the WLS first and maybe I could avoid back surgery altogether. It has taken since the middle of November when I had the second opinion to the scheduled surgery date of March 30th but I cannot wait for surgery. If you wanna email me and I'll give you my phone number. I again would recommend that you proceed as if you want it and you know you've got support out there if you need. I wish I had had the surgery at your age. I am 43 now. Pray to God for guidance but don't hesitate to realize there are so many people out there that care about you. God's richest blessings as you make your decision.

Cynthia C. 21 years, 3 months ago

Hi TT! THanks so much for the warm note! You know, I've chickened out on this surgery once all ready. And a friend in church asked me what was keeping me from making the RIGHT decision, and just getting the surgery? She had the surgery done in May of '03, and has lost well over 100 lbs! I told her that I was afraid to give up the foods I love and that I'd NEVER be able to eat them again!! She told me, correctly of course, that I have to STOP thinking about the food! It's the food that got me here in the first place. She said, PRAY, CINDY! So, that's exactly what I did. After my first surgery date came and went, I STOPPED listening to what everyone around me had to say (some good, some bad), and I really started talking to God. One day, as simple as pie, this peace came over me. All the anxiety was gone, and in it's place was perfect acceptance. Then, other things started falling into place too. Our new insurance co. approved the surgery for me within ONE WEEK. I had all kinds of people telling me what a fantastic surgeon I have. It was like a dominoe effect, and at that point, I KNEW I was ready. It was God's sign(s) to me that He wanted me to get this surgery. He was saying, "It's okay!!" I go in for my surgery in two days, and you know what?? I'm not nervous. I'm not anxious. I'm totally calm. So, sweetie, the only thing I can tell you is to PRAY. Then, open your heart and you'll start noticing little things. Once that calmness comes over you...don't hesitate...GET THAT SURGERY! I'm not doing it for anyone else now, except MYSELF. Myself and the good Lord! Hang in there, TT, and thanks again for your encouraging message you sent to me. I love having all these wonderful people praying for me! It's truly a blessing!

Alice W. 21 years, 4 months ago

Hi TT--I just read your profile and see that you are still not sure about having WLS. Glad to see that you enjoy coming to the message board to help and support you. My daughter also had the surgery 2 yrs ago when she was 23 yrs old. This decision to have the surgery is not an easy one. Please post and let us know how your journey is going. ~~~May you always have an Angel by your side..... Watching out for you in all the things you do...... Reminding you to keep believing in brighter days......Finding ways for your wishes and dreams to come true......Giving you hope that is as certain as the sun.....Giving you the strength of serenity as your guide......May you always have love and comfort and courage....May you always have an Angel by your side......Someone there to catch you if you fall..... holding your hand and helping your through it all.

Sharon Neva 21 years, 4 months ago

TT~~BEST WISHES ON YOUR WLS JOURNEY~~ May the world hug you today with its warmth, and love..... Pray it whispers a joyful tune in your heart..... And may the wind carry a voice that tells you there is a friend sitting in another corner of the world wishing you well!~~ If you have any questions, I have a lot of research information along with my story on my profile page.