I just read your post about your boyfriend.This sugery will be a new life for you in more ways then one.In six months or less he'll be eating his heart out!! He may also be one of those guys who cant stand to think about you having surgery. If thats it he''l get ahold of you when he finds out you made it through and are alright. Men can be that way, my stepdad is. Im 55 and I did it so can you.You go girl. LUV YA Nanc