DEBRA C.

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Frvsnt O. 20 years, 1 month ago

When feeling blue or WHATEVER about your “slow” weight loss or a plateau, remember these wise words whispered by Confucius – “It does not matter how slowly you go so long as you do not stop.” Be patient. You didn’t put it on over night, it won’t come off over night (DARN IT!)… RNY 10/31/03 – down 86 pounds!!! Good luck!

maxsprague 21 years, 9 months ago

Hello Debra, I had my surgery on July 9th and have lost 36lbs. I still feel a bit achy and at times I get the dry heaves. I am very happy that I had the surgery and I would do it all over again. I just wanted to see how you was doing and to wish you all the best

L. Brown 21 years, 10 months ago

Debra, I had my surgery on the 9th of July, so I'm pretty sure we're feeling most of the same feelings right now. First off, WHY are you trying not to take your pain meds? You need to rest and not get anxious, and your doctor knows that you need the medication, which is why he prescribed it for you. The pain alone could be making you feel depressed. I am a side sleeper, and I am so uncomfortable right now too! I might have slept 3 hours last night. I get very cranky when I do not sleep, and this is probably another reason for depression! Your husband, whether an R.N. or not, is going through the fear of watching his once capable wife unable to do things for herself, and is responding to you inappropriately. I would do a lot of self talk ( he's trying so hard to keep up with the laundry and the kids-things he doesn't usually do ) and letting anything negative he says go for now. You don't want to get caught up in his negativty as being towards you. He may just not be very supportive, but for now, just feel sorry for him that he is so overwhelmed by your incapacity (BUT LET HIM DEAL WITH IT). You just deal with healing your body and getting well. Take your meds for pain, try to get up and walk around a couple of times a day, and block out all feelings of guilt about being unable to do the things you normally do, even when someone is actively trying to make you feel guilty. We will be feeling much better in just a few days from now, write to me when you are able.

Hellcatmama 21 years, 10 months ago

Debra, I just read your post on the message board. I wish I lived nearby you, I would come and give you a hand!!! I know you have probably heard this from others but, This too shall pass! I hope your husband remembers that when you are well and (LOSING) THAT you will REMEMBER how he treated you in your time of need!!!!! My prayers go out to you! God Bless you and I wish you Peace~~~

Chris S. 21 years, 10 months ago

Hi Debra: Let me share a small thought my therapist uses with me. First of all I am a type A personality, and desperately want everything perfect if at all possible. I know it's just not possible, but I still want it. When I told her about the things that make me crazy and how they don't seem to bother other people, she said "IT'S JUST A CASE OF MIND OVER MATTER." I actually snorted when I laughed at her. I thought to myself, "I'm paying you money to spout such crap at me." She then said "IF YOU DON'T MIND, IT DON'T F*^%%NG MATTER." You had this surgery for yourself, and maybe you are feeling like it was selfish. IT WAS NOT SELFISH TO DO SOMETHING FOR YOURSELF. Try to put a positive spin on things ... for instance, let your inner voice repeat the following: "Ken is a good dad, and it won't hurt him to be a full time dad for a little while." I hope things get better for you soon. You are in my thoughts and prayers today.

Cheryl W. 21 years, 10 months ago

Hi Debra. I'm so sorry you're having such a rough time right now. I hope things get better for you and you can find someone who will help you as you recover. The physical pain will go away, as you know. But the emotional pain can have lasting effects. Please try to focus on feeling better and having a smooth recovery. Things will get better. My heart goes out to you. Take care.

skinnierone44 21 years, 10 months ago

Hi Deb, I am so sorry that you do not have the support of your husband. Some men can be so inconsiderate. I wish there was something I could do or say to make everything ok for you. He is not being very nice not helping with supper and the children after all they are his children as well. I will say a prayer that it will work out the way you want it. So sorry for your pain. You are in my thoughts and prayers Take care and if you want to chat just write me ok Big Hugs and love Kathy

Becca K. 21 years, 10 months ago

" I know, O LORD of LOVE and LIGHT, about the need. Touch my heart anew with your DIVINE LOVE and LIGHT that I too may receive and give, sending your healing touch to others in need. I invoke your DIVINE LOVE and LIGHT towards Excellent Health, Loving Relationships, Right Livelihood and Right Alignment with my and soul's purpose. I wish to align myself with ALL THAT IS, my own I AM PRESENCE. I now open myself to receive your gifts and with your DIVINE GUIDANCE I will give to others and give thanks for the SPIRITUAL ABUNDANCE in my Life." SO BE IT, IT IS SO.

rhondan 21 years, 12 months ago

Debra, Best wishes on your surgery and a very speedy recovery...hugs to you