John, Support groups really help so even if you aren't a "joiner", join one anyway! On a positive note, remember men lose weight alot faster than women because of your inherant muscle mass and muscle burns fat faster......in other words, the weight will melt away. You're almost on the other side. I'm sending positive thoughts and prayers for you and your surgeon.....and angels to hold your hand. This is the best gift you will ever give to yourself and your family!! I'm very proud of you for being so courageous and making this life changing move! YOUR FUTURE'S SO BRIGHT, I GOTTA WEAR SHADES!!!! HUGS!!! Carol Percel