In trouble (again)

May 18, 2010

Well, I'm in trouble (again).  So what's new?
I told the maternal unit of my intentions.  She is NOT a happy camper.
You wouldn't believe the litany of "why's" I got. 
WHY would you consider something so severe?
WHY wouldn't you just go on a diet?  (HA!  Yeah, like THOSE work for me!)
WHY would you want to spend that kind of money?  (Hmmm, let's see...maybe there's not much of a price tag on regaining one's LIFE???)
WHY can't you just count calories like I did? (Hmmm, yeah, that's always been real successful for me also.  Sorry I'm not YOU.)
Then there are the "who's" and "how's"...
WHO is going to take care of your dogs while you're gone?  (Like I seriously didn't think about this????)
WHO is going to take care of YOU?  (Ditto to above comment)
HOW are you going to be able to afford this?  (Okay, I know you're my mom but my finances REALLY aren't anyone else's business - would you ask your friends this question?)
Then she starts (re-starts actually) sending me DIET ADVICE she finds on the web.  (Yea, she's been doing this off and on for the last 10 years -- goodness knows THAT has always been helpful!)
Well, she IS my mom, and I KNOW she loves me, and even though she makes me crazy as only a mother can do, I DO love her.
So I tried to put my feelings in an email, and tried to answer her questions as best I could and even tried NOT to be ugly about it (altho that was my first "knee jerk" reaction).  I'm HOPING that letting her know that my cardiologist okayed this is going to help her some.  But probably not.
(Gee, she was all in favor of her HUSBAND having weight loss surgery - he's 360 lbs - but now she's in panic over ME doing it...  Guess it's a mom thing.)
Reading her email made me feel like she thought this was totally elective and cosmetic  - like a face lift.  Which REALLY rubbed me the wrong way.  But then, not only am I ultra sensitive about my weight, I am ultra sensitive with any comments from HER.  Good old family dynamics...
I HOPE that my reply to her will help her - or at least win me some silence on the issue.  I haven't heard back from her about it and it's been a couple of days, so I'm taking that as good news.  Then again, it could be the silence before the storm.  Maybe she's just gathering ammunition.
Well, bring it on.  I've done my homework.  I researched this from top to bottom and am 100% comfortable with my decision.  Not that I won't get nervous the closer the day comes!  But thankfully, I have this wonderful community to lean on.
So here's to all the mothers in the world, and all the daughters who just seem to always find a way to get in trouble (again)...

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