November 22, 2007

Nov 22, 2007

November 22, 2007

HAPPY THANKSGIVING !!!!!

I can not believe how long it has been since I posted.  I guess this goes to prove how active my life is now that I can go and do more physically now.

I funny how we think things will stay the same, but in a few months time so much has changed.

First off, I have lost 105-110 pounds.   That alone just blows my mind.  I wait to wake up any morning and be right back to where I was. 

The way I handle people now is different.  I don't just react to them.  I am not letting myself settle anymore in life.  I know what is important to me.  I am still
finding out little things about myself that surprise me all the time.

In September Trent took me to Myrtle Beach for a week for my birthday.  NO KIDS.  Whoo Hoo.  Then we left there for Atlanta.  We stayed there for 3 days.  We went to the Obesityhelp conference.  That was cool.  I got to meet alot of people from all over.  I Love this journey.

Halloween was a blast.  We went to a party and I dressed up as a hottie nurse.  I was kind of nervous at first, but Trent made me feel so beautiful, that I relaxed and had fun.  Well...him and the jello shots relaxed me. 

I like Mary's post about; 
what would I tell the 18 year old me.
1.  Don't settle in life for anything.
2.  Dream your dreams, then follow them.
3.  Forgive my dad for the pain, while I am young, he   will not be here forever.
4.  Do not equal sex to Love.
5.  Have my children by Trent, not their bio dad.
6.  Eat better and excersise more.
7.  Finish college while I am young, it gets harder the older you get.  You have more responsibilities.
8.  Have fun.
9.  Start being financially responsible now.
10.  Love myself, so the right person Loves me.

I was so hard headed back then.  I had to do things my way.  Well, I still am hard headed, I'm just a little wiser now.

My back still hurts so much.  Just when I think the weight loss has helped, I cry myself to sleep in pain.  The Dr has suggested more surgery...NOT !!!  Been there, done that, and it has not helped.  He wants me to have more shots in my back.  The last one's were in Dec 2006.  I don't want to get them because I have heard they make you gain weight.  I'll just put up with the pain before I gain weight.

I saw alot of family this week that I have not seen in a while.  It is so funny to see their reaction.  Some look at me like I have Aids or something.  Then you hear, Oh your too skinny.  NOT !!! They just aren't used to seeing me thinner.  Most are proud of me and tell me that I look healthier and good.

Trent is proud of me.  To hear him tell it, he has always been proud of me.  He told me I was just as beautiful to him when I was 260 pounds.  (He must be wanting something).
I think one of my biggest accomplishments has been  that I am proud of myself.  I look at myself in the mirror and get WOWED.  I remember before surgery taking my tummy and wondering what it would look like if all that belly wasn't there.  You know, when you hold it flat, or mash it in like its gone.  Most of it is now.  WOW !!!!!!!!!

I am so grateful for how far I have come.  No problems, no pain.  If I stopped loosing right this minute, I'd still be just as happy.  Don't get me wrong, I'd like to loose about 25 more pounds.  But if I don't, thats cool to.  I'd love to be able to have the surgery on my tummy to get rid of all this extra skin.  But as long as I have my clothes on, I won't scare anyone .  

I owe so much to the wonderful friends I have made on this journey.  It's so funny that the ones more likely to accept me unconditionally, are the ones I have met in the last year. 
Susan has been my life line.  She rocks !!!

So this Thanksgiving, I have so much to be thankful for.
1.   My family.
2.  My health.
3.  My dogs.
4.  Self respect.
5.  The lessons I have learned.
6.   My home.
7.   Food.
8.  The Love of family and friends.
9.  My job.
10.  And loosing 110 pounds.

Have a wonderful thanksgiving yall.



August 31, 2007

Aug 31, 2007

August 31, 2007

Well, posting seems to be getting farther and farther apart.  I guess that's because I have so much more energy and go from dawn past dust.  

My back kills me.  I go to bed every night crying with pain.  Probably because I can do more, physically, and I over do it.  It's nice to have a choice.

I don't think I posted since my 6 month check up with Dr. Byrne.  It went great.  I am down 90 pounds.  I would have never thought it possible.

I have some new pictures posted.  I don't want to appear arrogant, but for someone who ran from the camera the past few years, I don't mind it anymore.

I have had my mom staying with me for the past few weeks.  She had a light stroke the last week of July.  After 8 days at Summerville Medical center (they were great)  we went to health south for 2 weeks.  Now she is with me.  I know I can take care of her, give her her meds and cook and clean for her.  It's funny, I got my boys up old enough to take care of themselves and me get a break, and now it's like caring for a child all over again.  "No mom, you can't drink soda and have chips and cake.  Eat your vegs.  Go to bed, don't sleep on the couch, put your dirty clothes in the hamper"  Who would have thought.

It's nice to be able to take care of someone else.

Life is so much better.  I am so happy.

July 24, 2007

Jul 24, 2007

  Hi everyone!!!!!!

Just wanted to share a few WOW moments with you.

I bought this cute little pair of skorts, size 16, that were on clearance.  I figured I'd put them up until I could get into them.  While talking on the phone, I slipped them on to see how far I need to go to be able to wear them....and they not only slipped on, they zipped up.  I nearly peed my pants.

The second one came as I perfomed my daily ritual of waking up, going to the bathroom then standing on the scales.  They said 176.  WHAT!!!!!!!   176.  I haven't been that in so many years I can't remember even being in the 170's.

I am on top of the world.

I am going to my family doctor today for a little knott on my wrist.  I am excited to see my doctor.  I know he will be proud of me.  He has supported me so well.  Hopefully he will document my tummy and when the time comes, maybe it will help me with my plastic surgery.  I'd probably be in a 12-14 if I didn't have this kangaroo pouch as a tummy. 

I hope everyone else surgery is going as good as mine has.  And if you are thinking about this, DO IT!!!  It's the best thing I have ever done for myself.

JULY 10, 2007

Jul 13, 2007

July 10, 2007

180 pounds.  Can you believe that?!!!!  5 months out from surgery and still loosing.  Slower, but the scales are still moving.  I feel so much healthier.  I'm not at goal yet, but I am surely on my way.

I bought a size 16 yesterday.  It is a little more snug than I would like, so I will wait another week or so before I wear it, but 5 months ago I was in a size 26.

I have noticed that guys notice me more too.  That tends to get me into trouble though.  I don't mean to be flurty, but I think my friendly self comes out that way.  Oh..heck...I'm still single, kinda, well, I'm not married...yet.  So a little flurting just keeps the door open to my options should I need them.  LOL!!!

My life is so much better today than it was this time last year.  My self confidence is growning by leeps and bounds and my boobies are shrimking more and more everyday.  UGH!!!

I had a good July 4th.  I went to a get together at my sister's property for a fire works display and food.  I felt like I was the main attraction.  There was so many people that I had not seen in a while.  One by one they all came up and gave me a big hug and told me how great I looked.  NOW...after all these years wanting to hear that, I was speechless.  All I could say was thank you, thank you.  The relative that told me I was a "dumb a$$"  a few weeks and 38 pounds out of surgery, for having the surgery,  didn't know what to say.  As her mouth hung open, I just hugged her as she too told me how good I looked.  I joked and said.."Yea, I know" 

What a great feeling.  When you see people that didn't believe in you, but you believe in yourself enough to make life happen, that is awesome.

I want to help all the people I can share in this wonderful experience.  I want to run up to every single over weight person I see and give them my doctor's card.  I want to hold their hand and walk them through this experience.

I still believe that GOD gave me this opportunity not to be selfish, but to learn what I have from the people that he has put into my life, experience the process and lend a helping hand to all others that will need it.

May 25, 2007

May 24, 2007

May 25, 2007

I feel so good today.  Up at the crack of dawn, cleaning house, watering my plants and veg garden and now ready to cook supper.  A good night's sleep does wonder's.

I have been on a rather ruff rollercoaster ride of emotions.  The past few weeks I have been driving Trent and the boys crazy.

We got the word at the last minute that Seth was going to graduate.  I had been racing around to Doctor's offices, getting Doctor's notes for his absences, meeting with teachers, going to Mt. Pleasant to get his cap and gown, having invitations printed and mailed out at the last minute, planning, shopping and prepairing for a graduation celebration, going to the Bacclerette services and finally the graduation on this past Sunday.  

I wish I could say that was all I had to tend to, but as all of you other mother's know, the everyday other things also had to be attended to. 

On top of all of that stress, if that wasn't enough, it is really beginning to burn my heart that after 13 years, Trent and I can't seen to commit to getting married.  Somedays I am just ready to throw in the towel.  Not because I don't Love him, God know's I do, I just think it's time we tend to business.  I hear all the time that we are common law married.  NOPE!!!   Not until I do it before God, will I ever agree to that.  So that is what we have been working on.  One day I feel mean and enableing, and the other I feel sad and not good enough.

Everyone here say's they want me to go back to Dr. Byrne and get him to put back in me what ever he took out.  They think that will change me.  What they are saying to me is that they want that push over unconfident person back...and she is gone forever.

My life is changing daily.  Someday's it gets ruff...  trying to learn how to accept compliments, not having anything to wear because I am shrinking, feeling more self confident, being able to walk, talk and breathe and all at the same time.  I am liking who I am in the mirror more and more everyday.

My life is so worth living now.  I wish I could take every single over weight person on this journey with me.  I wish we could do away with obesity, especially starting in children..

Thank you all for caring about me.

Thank you GOD for Loving me and never giving up on me.  I know you aren't through with me yet...I can't wait to see what tomorrow holds!!!!!!

PS:  Dear GOD, can you please make these bad 'ole scales move.  They have been stuck on 65 pounds for a while now.  I'd like to see them go to 70 pounds or more...kinda soon.  
Thank you.           I LOVE  YOU!!!!!!!!

May 9, 2007

May 09, 2007

May 9, 2007

I have to be the most lucky person in the world. 

I posted my 3 month pictures today and I got the most wonderful responces back from OH.  This support group is the best.  I know I couldn't have even made it to the operating table without them.

When I look at those pictures, it doesn't even seem real.  Then to think, I hope to go even further, is just so...WOW!!!

The doctor said with my height I could weigh 140 pounds.  I laughed, I already do...in one leg.  63 pounds gone and 57 more to go.  Whooo Hooo!  Let's get this party rolling'!!!!

Go ahead, go to the music store and buy that CD...
You know, the one of Bob Seiger....with him singing
LOVE TO WATCH HER STRUT.  lol

Thank you God, thank you support group, thank you Trent, thank you Susan.  You all are so important to me.  Trust me...I know where my bread is buttered.

April 30, 2007

Apr 30, 2007

April 30, 2007

Onederland, yeaaaa    199 pounds!!!!!!

Wow what a couple of weeks.  Watching the scale move so fast is unbelievable.  Even though my clothes change and the scale changes, I now have to get my head to believe I am getting smaller.  I understand now what it means to still feel big in your head.  Not that I have a big head...lol...heck, I don't have big boobs anymore either...lol.

As long as I can remember, I have wanted to be smaller and wanted people to notice I was smaller.  I often wondered why they didn't notice the 5 or 10 pounds I would loose, it seemed like everyone always noticed the 5 or 10 pounds I gained.  Now when people notice, they seem to make a big deal of it (I am 61 pounds smaller than 3 months ago), and I don't know what to say.  For me, I always have a mouth full of words and am rarely shy, but when people put me on the spot with compliments and praises, I go speechless.  I just clam up.  That is so funny for me.  But after I get over the shyness of it, it feels so good.  It's like my time in life has finally come.  All of the bad I have been through, is all paid for in full with the joy that I am having.

I can walk and talk and breathe all at the same time!!!!  I can work with my flowers outside now.  I can go grocery shopping.  I can grill standing up and when I want to sit, I can cross my leggs.  I can clean my house and cut the grass (with a push lawn mower).  My back still hurts, but now I can sweep, mop and vacuume without begging for a bullet to end my pain.  I make my bed everyday, play with my dogs and enjoy having sex with my man again.

Life is changing so fast.  I do remember where I came from.  I do believe that along with the opportunity to have this surgery, comes the opportunity to help someone else that is struggling.  

My roughess days now, are still better than my good days before.  I am so thankful.  

My God is so good.

April 11, 2007

Apr 11, 2007

April 11, 2007

I DID IT !!!  50 POUNDS !!!

I can't believe it.  50 pounds gone in 2 months.  I would never have been able to do this in 6 months or more before.  I am really loving this.

First  I'd like to say thank you to My God, My Trent, My family,  Susan, Dr. Byrne and MUSC and all of the wonderful friends I have made along the way through LCBB support group, up State and Lower State.

This journey is not always easy, but you get out of it what you put into it.

Today Trent brought me home flowers and a balloon with a sweet card telling me how proud he is of me.  That made me feel so special.  I want to look good for me, but I do want to look good for him too.

April 1, 2007

Apr 01, 2007

What another great weekend.

This weekend was the Cooper River 30th Bridge walk/run.

Susan and I did it !!!!

We did it on about 3 hours of sleep.  We were so excited.  When it was time and they let us go, it didn't seem so bad, but when I started to climb the bridge and go up that hill, I began to doubt myself.  
All of my little head ghost started to talk to me:  what do you think you are doing, you can't do this?  You are way too fat to be up here.  You need to just quit, this won't make a difference to you, your feet hurt, your back hurts, just quit.  Quit, quit, quit.
There was no way I was quitting.  I may of had to slow down some on the way up, but I didn't quit.  Susan would not have let me quit even if she would have had to carry me.  She didn't let me get more than a step or two behind her before she would pull me up with her.  She really is the best friend I have ever had.  We went over that finish line, hand in hand, right beside one another.  We just hugged each other after we made it.  The last 1/4 mile I cried the all the way to the end.  I was so happy that we did it.

I can't believe for me what a difference 2 months have made.  2 months ago I could not even walk my dogs anymore much less think I would be standing on top of that bridge.

Susan is laughing at me because I am still wearing the medal I got.  I am so proud of myself.  I am proud of Susan too.  I knew she could do it, I knew I was committed to doing my best, but honestly, I didn't know I could do it.  I did know though, I just couldn't quit.

If I may say so myself,   WE ROCK !!!!!






Beach Trip

Apr 01, 2007

Wow, what a weekend.  We went to Myrtle Beach on Thursday, March 22-Sunday March 25.  We stayed at the Landmark Resort.  All together from upstate and Charleston, we had about 23-25 people.

Thursday we kinda just floated in the pool and relaxed. 
Friday we did some of the same for a while, soaking up the sun.  In the afternoon the gang started showing up.  Everyone got all cleaned up and met in the lobby at 6:30.  We all went out to  Hard Rock Cafe' and ate.  We had a good time.  Then we went to Revolutions dance club and danced.  Everyone had a great time.  The kids stayed at Susan's mom's house.  They loved being there.  Madison and Evan were there and they got to go shopping.  Seth really likes Jack, Margo's husband.
Saturday we went to Margo's and got things together for a get together  at 11am with the whole gang.  Margo did such a great job putting everything together.  We drew names and gave out little gifts, talked, ate and had fun.  Trent was the eye candy.  Then we went out to the beach and pool for a little while.  The boys stayed at Margo's and worked in the yard and went to play putt putt and out to eat.  All the girls met again and went to Dicks.  We had so much fun!!!  We were all headed back to Revolutions, and I couldn't go.  My head was feeling funny and my tummy was turning.  I barely made it back to the room.  I was shivering and climbed in the covers.  I could not even pick my head up.  I was in a comma for about 3 hours.  I remembered later on that I had dipped my crabby ball into some dip and ate it.  Shame on me.  Susan ate it and felt bad too and so did Mary.
Sunday we went back to Margo's and ate breakfast and hung out until 1 or 2pm.  We went shopping at Tanger outlet and took our time coming back home.  The weekend was wonderful.

I have met a bunch from upstate that are part of us.  I have got to know some of the locals better, and even though I didn't feel like I was missing something, I know I have found something and they bring me more into a full circle.





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