A little help from my Friends

Dec 06, 2007

The one amazingly wonderful thing about this whole process has been the sometimes immediate response of finding some wonderful friends.  We all have had to deal with the drama, discrimination and hurt of being overweight and we all have that in common.   Then sometimes you find people that you just click with.
To those of you.  Thanks so much for being here for me.  I always have someone to share the tears, laughter and the cravings for chocolate with.  My GV girls and guy, you make my day brighter every day.
As for the marriage, there's always the hyatt


Nervous, Nervous, Nervous

Dec 04, 2007

Sorry guys looking for wls information today.  I just have to vent to nowhere.  I am going to our first marriage counseling appt today.  How am I going to explain to Don and the Dr that the stuff that I put up with for 18 years isn't acceptable anymore.
I think that when someone is grossly overweight, they don't expect much from others.  They just feel grateful that they have a husband or a friend.  Then you lose weight, find yourself and your confidence again, and everyone around you is the same.
Its hard

Sleigh Bells are Ringing

Dec 03, 2007

Its hard to believe that its almost Christmas again.  I'm such a poor blogger.  Things are good weight and surgery wise.  I'm holding steady with my weight.  Up and down of course, but at least the same six pounds.  Unfortunately I can eat anything that I want to now.  Cheesecake, slides right down, oreos, no problem.  It really is true that the surgery is such a tool that you have to use.  It is definately not a solution.
I met a big goal Saturday by riding a horse.  Dad bought horses when John first expressed an interest in riding.  I was too big to ride then.  I loved getting the horses, brushing them, and leading them around.  I finally got on one and rode it all by myself.  It was the best feeling ever.
I'm having the marriage woes now that most WLS patients seem to go through.  We have a therapist appointment Wednesday.  Remember, you will change tremendously after this surgery, but those around you are just the same.  And its hard for them to see the changes going on in your life, looks, and emotions.
Good luck everyone

Almost two years out

Jul 11, 2007

   I can't believe that I am 22 months out from my WLS of Sept 30, 2005.  Life is so much better.  Its not just the physical stuff.  I am so much more self confident.  It has been hard, I am much more proactive in my marriage.  I don't just sit and take stuff that I would before.  I deserve much more.  I will have graduated from college in a year.
   I have made so many wonderful friends from this site and gotten so much help and support.  I will always be grateful for that.    I'm trying to figure out now how to give back some.

17 months out

Apr 27, 2007

I am almost 17 months out.  The window for weight loss easily is gone, but that's okay.  I have to struggle for these last few pounds, but they are coming off.
I weigh 163.5  Don't know when I last weighed this

Invitation to Towana's Brunch

Apr 19, 2007

Please Join the LCBBs at Mary's house to celebrate Towana's Graduation, wish her Bon Voyage on her move to Miami, eat brunch, and discuss our journeys toward our lives after WLS.
  RSVP Please
by sending me an OH message

Advise to my 18 year old self

Apr 11, 2007

I love the post on the board about what advise I would give the 18 year old Mary if I could go back in time.  I would Never give up Don, John, and Scott, I just might change the path towards them a little.  Here is my advise to that young lifeguard who thought that her blonde hair and dark tan would last forever.

1.  Love your family, treasure your grandparents, you will miss them so when they are gone.
2.  Your mom and dad love you and will do literally anything for you.  Appreciate them, don't make them have to prove their love
3.  Hot boys + alcohol + hooks-ups do not equal love.
4.  FINISH your education.  You parents want to pay for it, they see it as their job.  Appreciate it
5.  Don't lose touch with your church and God.  That is a part of who you are
6.  Honesty is more important than anything.  People will still love you despite your faults
    I wish I could change so much, but at least I've been led to where I am now.

Tomorrow will be a Better Day

Apr 01, 2007

Seems like I keep saying this.  I did not do well with eating today, but I didn't do horribly either.  
Don is still mad mad jealous that I was AT a dance club in MB where men MIGHT have been looking at me.  I told him that I think he is trying to turn me back into the fat scared shy person I was.
I hate teenagers, love my son, but HATE the age 16.
Still trying to deal with and regulate Scott's ritalin plus he's been having asthma attacks so we have to have the medicine that totally hypes him up.  I've finally got him settled down on the couch.
Good news is I got a size 8 dress on this body.  It fit, a little tight, but it fit.
Until next time

For all of you Women who Make my Day every day

Mar 30, 2007

To the Girls !!



Inside every older person is a younger person -- wondering what the hell happened.
- Cora Harvey Armstrong-



Inside me lives a skinny woman crying to get out. But I can usually shut the bitch up with cookies.





The hardest years in life are those between ten and seventy.
-Helen Hayes (at 73)-





I refuse to think of them as chin hairs.  I think of them as stray eyebrows.
- Janette Barber-





My second favorite household chore is ironing. My first one being -- hitting my head on the top bunk bed until I faint.
- Erma Bombeck





Old age ain't no place for sissies.
-Bette Davis-





Thirty-five is when you finally get your head together and your body starts falling apart.
- Caryn Leschen



If you can't be a good example -- then you'll just have to be a horrible warning.






I'm not going to vacuum 'til Sears makes one you can ride on.
- Roseanne Barr-





Behind every successful man is a surprised woman.
- Maryon Pearson-



Nobody can make you feel inferior without your permission.
-Eleanor Roosevelt-



Reviews of the former porn star's pics!!!

Mar 21, 2007

That was fun but worrysome.  Its hard to be that exposed when you are so used to hiding.  I'm posting some of the messages, emails, and posts that I got so that I will never forget my day of fame
Wow!!!!!!!!!!! What a HUGE difference. They look great. Don't be paranoid about posting something like that it is very informative for me and I am sure many others. I wish I needed a reduction. I need a lift and some extra padding. I know this has to make you feel great. You did have a wonderful surgeon I can tell by just looking.

Mary,wow! they are pretty and look "perfect" ! and OMG How did you carry them around before?? I would of killed over! i thought my best friends boobies were big but i think you beat her out on that one! WOW lol.. Im sure youre very glad to be a C now! I wish i were a C still.. mine decided to turn B on me lol hell me and kathy both could of shared your left overs and looked good u know im messin with ya .. they look really good though you should be happy

I am a friend and I am going to be honest with you with my opinions. I think
they are 10 times smaller than before. I am sure it is a huge relief to not
have them at your belly button every day and I think the scar is very minimal
and will probably almost disappear over time. The only thing else I see is the
extra on the sides of the boob, I wish the dr. would have removed that too.
But I don't know anything about these surgeries either sooo..... I love the
perky side picture. :)

Hey Mary! !!!NICE RACK!!!!


Your plastic surgeon is an AR-TEEEST! He did a BEAUTIFUL job ... you wil have NO scarring when those babies heal totally!!

I am GREEN with envy ... your boobies are BEAUTIFUL!!!!

I left lots of great ones out but I just finished my business finance  final exam so I have to crash now

What do they say???   Everyone is famous 10 minutes

About Me
Goose Creek, SC
Surgery Date
Sep 03, 2005
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Latest Blog 16
A little help from my Friends
Nervous, Nervous, Nervous
Sleigh Bells are Ringing
Almost two years out
17 months out
Invitation to Towana's Brunch
Advise to my 18 year old self
Tomorrow will be a Better Day
For all of you Women who Make my Day every day
Reviews of the former porn star's pics!!!