Too skinny!?!? Concern or jealousy?

Dec 08, 2010

So, I lost 112 pounds. 

Goals of surgery:  No more diabetes. No more high blood pressure.  No more depression.  No more sleep apnea.  No more sore knees.  No more shortness of breath walking stairs.  All goals met!  Good for me and good for my health!

Side effects of surgery:  hair loss (which is coming back) and down 7 pants sizes and 4 top sizes.  My bra went from a 46D to a 36C (probably a B, but I refuse to admit it!)  I am a normal BMI and have energy and joy.

Back when I was fat, no one (except my grandmother and doctor) ever said to me, "Wow! You sure are fat! Maybe you are too fat...you know you should probably lose a few pounds...."  And my doctor was a bit more tactful than my grandmother....

In church last Sunday, a fellow parishioner came up to me and said, Wow! You sure are skinny now!  Maybe you are too skinny...you know you should probably stop losing weight and maybe even gain a few pounds...."

Really?  I am 5'11" and am wearing a size 10 pants and size L on top.  I think I look good.  Nothing is sunken in...nothing is hollow or sickly looking (and I have asked others to be brutally honest and tell me if I look sickly or unhealthy.) 

The lady who said this to me is obese.  I know that she thinks she is being concerned for me...but I wonder if she is just jealous.  What she said to me hurt less than someone calling me fat, but it still made me feel bad about how I look to others...even though I know she is mistaken about me being too skinny.

Ugh.  Why can't people ever stop making weight an issue? 

Love,
Rebecca

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