Say What?

Aug 11, 2009

After my appointment with Dr. Harris, and setting up my first nutrition class, and my first psy appointment, I was so happy, I am finally making progress towards my goal.  Then a dark cloud started to appear, and has been raining on my parade ever since.  My dark cloud is my boss, Anita.  Anita is usually pretty laid back boss, doesn't really bother me much.  We talk a little about personal business.  I wouldn't say we are friends, but she has been there to listen when times were tough with my daughter.  After hearing Dr. Harris say that I would be out of work about 2 weeks, I felt it was my responsibility to tell my boss my plans, because we would have to hire a temp to fill in while I was out.  My job can not go undone for two weeks.  I felt close enough to tell her that I was planning on having gastric bypass surgery, hopefully in November or December.  She got bent out of shape.  She knew one person that had the surgery and they had complications... I explained to her that I have done my research, and feel very comfortable with my choice in surgeons.  Then she asked when in November, I told her around Thanksgiving or Christmas, because I only have 3 vacation days left, and I would use the 2 Holiday pay days to help with my time off, STD doesn't kick in until day 8.  She told me that I could have it in November, but not December, because of the Holidays, she is taking vacation, and it's end of the year, we have to print W-9's and 1099's.  And then she continues to tell me that I couldn't have it in January either because of year end (accounting) and getting ready for the audit we have in February.  So she tells me that March would be best.  During this conversation I don't remember ASKING her when I could have the surgery.  I was really just being courteous to let her know that I would be out.  She continues to tell me that the owner of the company will have to know, I said sure, that I am having surgery... she said he will ask what kind of surgery you are having.  I said well it's none of his business, and it's against the law for him to ask me, and I would lie to him, because it's personal decision.  All that happened last Friday... well today is Tuesday, and work is so tense.  I think she went and told the owner, I just have a feeling.  I am so pissed that I confided in her, and so pissed that a person I have known for 5 years, and acted like she cared about me is so unsupportive because it might be a little inconvenient for me to be out.  

Thank goodness I saw Kelly today, she helped me realize it really doesn't matter what she says, I am moving forward, and hopefully I can have the surgery in November when it would work for all, but if not, then it will be scheduled as soon as possible, and not 4 months later.  This is my life, my choice... who does she think she is, I'm MY BOSS in MY LIFE!!  I have to admit, when Kelly told me to pretend she was Anita, and I could tell her how I felt, with no reprocutions, I really laid into her, and it felt so good.  I had wrote about it, but really saying what I wanted to say to her, help me so much.  If only I could say what I wanted... but since I need my job, I'm stuck biting my tongue.  

Well I guess I complained long enough.... WHO CARES ANITA!!!  I"M having my surgery with or with out your support, you are ONLY my boss.... that's it!!

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