goal weight?
I need to find one of my previous longer responses and bookmark it so I can just cut and paste!
Good to see you around, my friend!
Lora
14 years out; 190 pounds lost, 165 pound loss maintained
You don't drown by falling in the water. You drown by staying there.
I didn't have strong expectations about where I would end up. I lliked the thought of making goal, because it was a goal. I like to set and acheive goals. But my primary purpose in getting teh weight loss surgery was to get a healthier weight, and to overcome the destructive GERD that was destroying my voice.
I got to about 185 or so and stuck there for a long time. I was smaller than I had been sine I was 14 years old. I was pleased a*****h, and didn't really have any desire to change what I was doing to get smaller. Then I started losing again and got down (for a day) to goal, but bounced right back to about 10 lbs above goal, which seemed to suit me. I stuck there for a long time and was pleased (and didn't want to get back up to 185, no matter how pleased I was when I was there on the way down the scale).
Then I started to lose again, got down to goal. And kept losing. (mind you, I was doing nothing to lose)... I got to 8 lbs below goal and stabilized there for a while. When I looked in the mirror I saw a skeleton wearing a deflated fat suit, and boy it was NOT pretty. I knew I was too thin. Knew that goal was more realistic, and frankly 10 lbs over goal was where I really was best.
Had surgery on my ****yx last March, and regained 9 lbs immediately, then inched my way back up to my optimum level of about 10 lbs above goal. A good weight for me. Stuck there a while but have regained a bit in the last couple of months. Trying to lose 5 lbs to get back to where I should be.
I think that setting a goal can be empowering and important. I think that fixating on a number on the scale is BAD. Overall, you should have a health goal as primary, a SIZE goal as secondary, and the scale number is just a number. If people in high school cared as much about numbers as people losing weight, my job as a high school math teacher would be so much better! I think that tenaciously trying to acheive a number that is separate from how you look and feel can be self-defeating. You might get to the size you want, the health you want, but are you going too be fixated on teh scale just because it says you're 30 lbs over some arbitrary number?
Another mistake I've seen is that people who set goals think that they have more control over their bodies than they should have. You don't just decide okay, I'm done, and then you can stop being someone who has had WLS.... this is a lifetime committment to eating differently, and the weight on teh scale is only the tiniest thing. You have to figure out what size you want to be, acheive it, and move on from there. You don't just stop the weight loss, or start it back up, just out of a decision. You have to play by the rules, and allow your body and nature to balance you out to where you need to be (I made goal at 29 months out, btw).
Now, if I don't lose my 5 lbs (and don't gain any more) I'm not goign to start crying. I'm happy with me and my focus isn't on my weight, it's on just living my life.
~Lady Lithia~ 200 lbs lost!
March 9, 2011 - Coccygectomy!
I chased my dreams, and my dreams, they caught me!
I'm trying to focus more on being healthy than a particular number. I would like to weigh less than my partner but he's into body building and can fluctuate between 13 and 15 stone in any given month
I'm quite a large frame and have a bust and hips. If I can get below 200lbs and be able to run a 10k (my non-scale goal) i'll be ecstatic
Ultimately I believe that your body knows what size it is supposed to be so will try not to stress too much if I never get to what is classed as normal for my height
When I went in to discuss this with the Dr he asked what my goal was. I started out at 254 and said I wanted to be 180. He told me that was a realistic goal because he has had people come in and say they want to be 125 pounds which a lot of people fail to get to or get there and end up putting weight back on. I actually beat my goal and range between 163-168 and have maintained for a year. I'm one month shy of my 2 year anniversary.
I believe your body will tell you where it needs to be. You have to be comfortable with yourself.
Stephanie