What to do, I can't afford the surgery, but Can't afford not to have WLS.
So is it wrong to ask for help?
To ask those who love me and want me thin and healthy to help pay? Maybe pitch in extra for my birthday (Nov. 19th,) and Christmas (surgery date of Dec 27th). or is it my responsibility to realize I can't afford it and move on and give up on trying?
Need advice,and hope!!
I'd ask! Birthday and Christmas presents in money would soon add up. Only trouble is, everyone woudl be watching your every move to see how it went!
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Loan? Care credit (which is EXTREMELY easy to get comparatively.. trust me on that)? Loans from family? Early presents? Christmas supplemental income (cause they are hiring now..)?
If you can't get any help from people you know, postpone the surgery until you can come up with the $1200 yourself. It'll be worth the wait in the long run.
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Most of us who have had this surgery has had to put some money up front to reach the end result. In my case, even though I had great insurance, my out of pocket was a great deal more than what you will have to pay, and I knew this from the get-go. So I planned accordingly, to make sure that I had the funds when I needed them.
There is no need to "give up" on trying to have this surgery. You may not be able to have your surgery as soon as you would like if money is that much of an issue, but it will be so worth the wait if you have to save until you do have the funds. I think it's fine to ask your loved ones if they'd like to contribute in lieu of your Birthday and Christmas, but I think it might be a bit unreasonable to expect them to foot the entire amount. I mean, if they want to, that's fine, but it's not something that I think should be "expected". But if it does by chance happen, that's great for you.
on 10/27/09 2:38 pm - Woodbridge, VA
So I see nothing wrong with you telling people who love you what you're trying to do and why and I'm sure they'd be glad to help.
It's not like you're asking for a new tv or a vacation!
Go for it!
(DON'T use a credit card or a loan! You'll still have the same problems and more after your surgery and you'll be out of work a while and those payments will still come due!!!)
I'm not sure how it will all come together, but maybe somehow it will.
I have 2 or 3 options to try and we'll see how those play out.
(401k loan because we are 23 and we have time to build it back up)
(carecredit.com, thank you to those of you that put me on that trackand finally
a collateral loan on our car.
My family, the 5 or 6 that I have contact with will not help and now some refuse to talk to me because I should have the self-control to stop eating long enough to lose weight without taking the easy way out with surgery [my grandparents]
If any one else has any advice or help, I am all waist (ears is a lie, all my cuddliness is in my tummy)