Help me motivate my bf!
on 6/1/12 6:24 pm, edited 6/6/12 7:16 pm
Hi,
I am Aaron. To motivate your boyfriend you have to talk to him and tell him the benefits of gym. Also tell him his importance in your life. This may help to motivate him.
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naso fix
Please note: I AM NOT A DOCTOR. If you want medical advice, talk to your doctor. Whatever I post, there is probably some surgeon or other health care provider somewhere that disagrees with me. If you want to know what your surgeon thinks, then ask him or her. Check out my blog.
I have seen a few relationship break out because one person changed and changed eating and habits and the other one did not and did not wanted to change. While the same time resented and tried to sabotage the other.
I think cooking good food, not buying any junk food and not allowing it to be in the house may be the beginning. (some people asked their partners to keep the not -so healthy snacks in their cars or in a specific room of the house. )
Hala. RNY 5/14/2008; Happy At Goal =HAG
"I can eat or do anything I want to - as long as I am willing to deal with the consequences"
"Failure is not falling down, It is not getting up once you fell... So pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again...."
on 6/1/12 9:39 pm
I could be very offended when after I make sugarfree fat free ( delicious ) foods , my men choose to eat full fat macaroni n cheese ... fried food in restaurants and fastfood . Instead I let it go .
Its enough of a problem for me to coral myself .
Now I used to say will NOT bake full fat .. etc ... but even thats changed i n the interests of time and money saving . Sure if they want junk , ill give them quick junk rathert han take the trouble to make the good stuff .
remeber its always your choice who you choose to live with .
If he's the kind of guy who eats what's placed in front of him, then you taking back the cooking will ensure that he and your daughter are getting one healthy meal daily. He'll probably eat plenty of junk food the rest of the day, so don't fool yourself.
I'm sorry to sound so negative, but it's the way it is. Trying to force him to follow you will lead to problems and resentment from both of you.
Valerie
DS 2005
There is room on this earth for all of God's creatures..
next to the mashed potatoes
MEL-please re-read VALERIE's reply-once from her, and once from me, cuz she said exactly what was in my brain!
I'd just like to add:
Obviously this man is more than a "Boyfriend" in the usual use of the word. Y'all have a home and a child together. The ties "run deep"..
I'm guessing here..BUT..if you are like I was..you've been talking about your WLS/wt loss 24/7 these past months...I probably drove everyone nuts...and my DH was normal wt..I think it would have been harder on him, had he had a wt problem himself...
Now that YOU have "new things" in YOUR life, it sounds HE is turning to THE FRIEND HE KNOWS HE CAN COUNT ON...Sound familiar??? Didn't WE turn to junk food/etc/etc when we happy/sad/glad/mad ??? Be honest..
Now..you have a responsibilty to your daughter. You are far enough post op-and sound like you feel good enough-to resume fixing her meals-AND monitoring the foods that come into HER house, and on to HER plate. Your BF is an ADULT, capable of making his OWN choices. Your dtr is NOT..
INVITE your BF to the gym-do not attempt to "drag him". A year ago, could anyone have "dragged" YOU? If he won't go..go without him...do not make a big deal of it..just GO...continue to invite him..sooner or later he'll either join you, or he won't..
You cannot MAKE another person think/say/do anything..you can only educate/encourage/model the behavior..but mostly..YOU have to take care of YOU..and of your beautiful daughter..
And..is Mountain Dew "better" for him?....ummmm...no
RNY 4-22-02...
LW: 6lb,10 oz SW:340lb GW:170lb CW:155
We Can Do Hard Things
I would frankly be more concerend about what he is feeding your daughter. I would either cook for her or insist her feed her healthy foods and limit the crap. You don't want to set her up for obesity and an unhealthy lifestyle. You still have influence over her diet.
SW 212 / Goal 130 / Current 130
Think about how you felt before you had surgery. Did you want someone to try to tell you what you could eat and drink? did you want someone to try to tell you what activities you could do when you weren't working? I bet you didn't.
My advice is to quit trying to be his mother or his doctor or whatever and let him make his own choices.
Please note: I AM NOT A DOCTOR. If you want medical advice, talk to your doctor. Whatever I post, there is probably some surgeon or other health care provider somewhere that disagrees with me. If you want to know what your surgeon thinks, then ask him or her. Check out my blog.