made fun of for weight what happens after surgery?

With the social networking people who used to make fun of me for my weight. One being my ex who posted a nasty picture of a cartoon of a fat nurse from south park even though we had been broken up for well over 6 years and been on okay terms for 3. Anyways. I am just wondering what kind or new things they will say. "Oh she was so fat she had to have surgery " or did people quiet IP afterwards? I just want to be prepared

What you want to be prepared for is to let it go ...   Don't spend your skinny years being the formerly fat girl with a big chip on her shoulder.  None of these people deserve to rent space in your head!

What a great analogy, Sin Kim!  I love this, "none of these people deserve to rent space in your head!"   Jane

I'm sorry that happened and that it hurt you.

I found that counseling helps with self esteem issues. If you have any issues now, they'll still be there after WLS. It's best to deal with the root of the problem before (and after) WLS.  People will talk... they always do. But it truly doesn't matter what anyone else thinks about anything to do with your appearance if YOU feel good about yourself. 

If someone were to say, "Oh, she was so fat she had to have surgery," you can remind them that if someone had cancer, they'd most likely have treatment for that. It's the same thing. Ignorance abounds... and I don't see it abating any time soon. But if you're feeling good about yourself, those comments won't affect you like they used to.

There are blocking tools on social networking sites, if that makes things easier, too. There's no reason to put up with insulting people when you don't have to. Take care of yourself, first and foremost. That will be your "new job." 

No one on my social networking sites made fun of my weight.  If they did, I would have blocked them.  Why are you networking with people like that?

Ditto this.  I wouldn't associate with anyone who mocked my weight.

What you might be surprised about is what others have discovered is the tolerance for bull**** like this after they lose some weight and gain confidence.  Are you aware that you can block these people from seeing your profile?  Social network friends are so much easier to erase from your life.  You can start that campaign today!

Wow. Sorry you are dealing with that. I have never had anyone say rude things to me fat or thin. I don't associate with people like that. I agree with the others. Block people who are rude, not only to you but to other people as well. You do not need that negative energy in your life.

I have blocked people including the ex. I guess I am trying to figure out how to deal with people i can not block out of my life. Such as my in laws who say stuff about my weight. I just want to know what to say to people who make comments after the fact of me losing the weight. Has it been good for you guys or bad? I avoid going anywhere with my husband because of the stuff his family says and I just have no clue what to say after my surgery.

it is possible after your surgery ,that you will grow a vagina and not take any of this crap from anyone anymore,because you don't have to and you n ever did have to,really.

 

I haven't gone anywhere with my husbands family for over 10 years because they are rude  and since he would rather be with me than with them,he hasn't either.

 

He recently ,in April of this year broke all ties with his 80 year old mother because of all the abuse she has heaped on me and our daughter for the last 40 years. This was after I told him in January that i would never talk to her or ever see her again.

 

My best revenge is doing nothing at all. My weight loss and the way I look now,is all that needs to be "said". If anyone was to make any kind of a negative comment to me about my current size or my former size,I would just look at them,and keep,looking at them,and keep looking at them until the silence grows so uncomfortable FOR THEM that they would NEVER dare say anything to me again.

 

I wouldn't even be worried About them in a social networking area as they wouldn't even be a friend to me on there. End of discussion,if you DH doesn't't like that he can join them easily enough.

 

I seriously don't entertain fools lightly.