Initial Impression and Question

Ok, fine.  I'm NOT new to this game.  While I haven't actually had my surgery yet, I've been researching procedures for years and am not ignorant about what I'm getting myself into.  I get the feeling every feels superior here if they've had the surgery and believes that just because I'm new to the forum that I'm new to the world of WLS.  My surgery is in 13 days and I don't appreciate being treated like I'm an ignorant idiot just because I didn't find this forum at the beginning of this process when I would have taken certain suggestions as helpful, rather than antagonizing.  After choosing a surgeon I have spent hours and hours talking with members of the team and ordering more books, doing more reading and preparing myself as much as possible since the first meeting with him so many months ago.  I've been to hell and back with some of my clearances.  This is NOT a hockey game, this is a group (from my understanding) meant to support and encourage one another.  Yes, I am new to this site, I do not appreciate being treated like a moron.  So, I can be impolite, too.  I just find it unnecessary in a SUPPORT group.

Ffs, do whatever you want. No one treated you poorly.

If you'd read more of the forums-- now, or back when doing research-- you'd know that "support" around here does NOT often equal a hand-pat and false assurances that everything are fine. Flip through old posts and see how many people have NOT done their research and/or make bad decisions, and you'll understand why the long-time posters act the way they do.

Nobody's out to attack you. Nobody says you're an idiot. This is just how things run around here.

Good luck.

Breathe girl, Breathe! Take a step back, don't take **** personal. No one thinks you're an ignorant idiot. Just remember no one knows you or what you've been thru, the research you've done etc, etc. They only know what you post. Chill! No one, or at least I'm pretty sure no one feels superior to anyone else here.

Remember what I said earlier, you don't have to defend every post. Keep your eyes focused on what you want to do.

Honey, settle down.  No one thinks you're an ignorant idiot.  No one feels superior because they've had surgery.  No one thinks you're a moron.  No one is being impolite.

The advice from the vets here is invaluable.  This is a support group, but if you act like a fool, you will be treated like a fool.  

you ARE new at this game as long as you are pre op. All the research in the world only prepares you for a very minimal amount of preparedness. It is nothing like post op. 

You have to LIVE it to even know what I am talking about. You will find out what I am talking about when you are post op.

Unfortunately, I've had similar issues with judgmental responses from people on this site.  I just ignore it and try to live by the OA saying "Take what you want and leave the rest."  It IS frustrating when people are giving their opinion in a strong manner when it wasn't even asked for, but I try to remember that they think they're being helpful and it's hopefully never intentional if they hurt/offend someone.  

I wish you luck on your journey!  There are a lot of supportive and helpful people on this site also. Glad you stood up for yourself! 

Thank you so, so much! 

may I respectfully ask why you feel it is ok for you to "say your piece" but it is apparently not alright for any of us to say ours.

I just looked through your posting history and the responses and saw absolutely nothing that would have been considered harsh.  Did one of your posts get deleted?