Just a warning. I had an incisional hernia from surgery performed 2-02. I didn't know it was a hernia thought I was just fat. The surgery line was from just below the breast bone all the way down. Anyway I had servere pain 8-06 and went to the emergency room. All I rememer is going into the triage room and the nurse calling for help cause my blood pressure was just too low. The next thing I know I wake up and my sister (who lives in Florida) was sitting there. They had done the surgery and then had to put me in a medically induced coma for two weeks. Poor father and sister had to sit there while I was sleeping being told that they were just taking it hour by hour but not to count on me surviving. Well I am still around but was not an easy recovery. Cost the insurance company around $300,000 by the time everything was over with. And I am just now starting to feel like my old self. Am trying to get VSG done so this will not happen again.
I'm curious, did you talk to a lawyer about their refusal to pay? Or ask your employer to intercede? I have had 3 hernias. They finally had to use the cadaver tissue to repair it as patches just weren't doing it, I didn't have enough muscle left to attach it to. It has been over a year and is working great. However with a hugh hernia like you have, the doctors explained it to me that there is really not much protecting your internal organs but skin and hopefully a small layer of fat. They told me not having surgery was just not an option and told me to never go without an abdominal support for extra protection!