Can I realy do this!
I know you guy's probably herd this before. I'm usually a very strong and a go getter person but this time I'm really second guessing myself. Especially with all the fighting I have been doing with my husband, the one person who I taut would support me completely, not so sure anymore! He says he's in this with me and then he would ask me to pick up BERGER KING OR TIM'S COFFEE.
Can I really stop eating junk food? Can I make it threw optifast? What if I have the surgery and I eat myself to death! How I'm I suppose to feed a large family of 5 children and eat half a cup of food? I want this so much but so scare at the same time.
Feeling such like a failier right now!
So sad!
Highs weigh 241 Referal: November, 2010
Before opti 231 Surgery date: May 10, 2012
After opti 220
on 7/28/11 11:49 am
It is time to put Brigitte at the head of the line for looking after yourself. It is like the demonstration that they do on airplanes.....before you help anyone else, you need to put the oxygen on yourself first OTHERWISE YOU CANNOT HELP ANYONE!!
You can do it. Continue to read posts here on OH, look for a local support group that you can attend too.
It is possible.
Judy
Highs weigh 241 Referal: November, 2010
Before opti 231 Surgery date: May 10, 2012
After opti 220
I keep a journal. It helps clear my head. Good Luck!
Dietician/Psychiatrist: 24 Nov 2011 Surgeon: 9 Jan 2012 PAATS: 1 Mar 2012
Surgery: 23 March 2012
Dave...
Fighting is so normal right now. Your husband and family have likely always expected you to do things for them, and this is something you need to do for yourself. They're going to have to make adjustments too.
You have five kids. How old are they? Can they start picking up some of the food preparation responsibilities now, so that you can take care of yourself rather than take care of them all the time.
When my kids were about 14, they started doing some of the cooking (my husband is totally useless in that regard).
if its going to bother you to see them eat more than you, maybe eat by yourself for a while, until you think you can handle it.
You have time now, before surgery, to start preparing your family for the new you, and their new reponsibilities.
You need to be straight up with your husband and tell him that picking up food for him is a problem for you. Unless he's confined to his bed, i dont see why you need to pick food up for him.
It's so very normal to be scared at this stage of the game. It's a huge change that you're making. You're being selfish, but in a good way. You need to be selfish so that you can be the person, the mother, the wife that you deserve to be.
No more putting myself second. Thanks for the great advice.
People are not going to be happy! But I'll be healty.
Highs weigh 241 Referal: November, 2010
Before opti 231 Surgery date: May 10, 2012
After opti 220
Not only is it good practice for them, for the future of your household, but its going to prepare them for life in the big world, when they have to take care of themselves. Why don't you assign each of the teenagers at least one night to cook, and your husband a couple of nights.
I have twins as well, although mine are nearly 20 now. And very responsible, caring girls, who take care of themselves.
your health is paramount in this process. It means you'll be able to be a better person, mother, wife, aunt.
Hang in there!
