Another NSV.....why do these one's make me so uncomfortable????

So, I'm close to 6 months post op and have shed 97 lbs since the start of my 2 weeks on Opti. Needless to say, people have noticed the changes. I don't think a day goes by without someone commenting on my weight loss any longer. Yesterday however I had the most shocking comment. It came from a client whom I've worked with for a year or so, who is always very complimentary about my losses. Yesterday however, when I arrived at her home and we settled in, she turned to me and said " I really don't want to get too personal with you, but honestly if you lose much more weight you're going to completely disappear......are you eating anything at all??? ". It was said completely as a compliment but I'm finding myself increasingly uncomfortable with so much attention being focussed on my weight all the time.....and quite frankly, never in my life has someone told me that I was bordering on " disappearing " before.
I think that I also feel so uncomfortable because, but for my face, I really don't " see " the loss as others see it.
I didn't expect feeling so uncomfortable about getting healthy!!

Im sorry but I am having a hard time sympathizing with you. I have been waiting almost 2 years now for my surgery. The day someone says something like that to me I will be doing cartwheels and flip.

I hear you, I waited for 3 years, being shuffled back and forth between clinics for a date. I wasn't really looking for sympathy, just wondering if anyone else feels the same way.

I totally understand what your feeling .. I get it from some people at work. IS THAT ALL YOUR GOING TO EAT..Even after i explain the surgery some just dont get it. And i know i am getting smaller and the sizes are going down but i too have a hard time seeing it. Just cant wrap my head around it sometimes. I try not to focus on their comments..The way i look at it is , you cant fix stupid....Some people just dont think before they speak....Have a good night.....Krista.....

It is hard to have attention focussed on you when you have been busy hiding yourself for a long time. So it takes a lot to get use to it and I have only begun my journey - I'm 3 months post op.

when ppl say "that's all you are going to eat" I say yes, b/c my body is busy using all of my extra fat as energy. that usually shuts them up in a hurry! lol

Definitely understand this feeling!  Before surgery, I couldn't imagine getting tired of compliments about how I look, and believe me, I'll take my life now post-op with the constant comments and compliments over my life pre-op and not being able to walk a block without feeling like I was going to collapse.

But it's weird - eventually you start thinking, okay, when is it going to be NORMAL that I look nice and not worthy of comment several times a day?  Everyone means so well when they compliment you, so it's not that I feel resentment or anything even coming close to it.  But eventually, if you keep getting comments (even positive ones) several times a day for months on end about your weight loss, you might find that you want people to stop focusing on your weight loss and just see you as normal.

But I don't say anything about my discomfort because I know that everyone who is being so nice and complimentary are being supportive and admiring, and I really appreciate their good will.

I hope you get to have your surgery soon - enjoy your NSVs when you do! :)

 

It's all about perception. When people are used to seeing you at a certain weight, and then "suddenly" you're 100lbs (or almost) less, that's quite a change in their eyes. They're not like us - they SEE it. 

I would say "I'm doing exactly what I need to in order be be healthy." and leave it at that. 

I think it's completely natural to go through that uncomfortable stage, by the way. 

Great reply Tab......Krista..

I know what you are talking about. I feel like my weight has become a public issue. People who I would never commented on their weight seem to have a comment on mine. i am tired of being the centre of discussion on weight

Thank-you all soooo much for the comments. It really helps me feel " normal ". I absolutely wouldn't change anything, and I am so very grateful for the opportunity for good health that this surgery has given me. I also politely thank people when they pass out the compliments and would never express to anyone about feeling uncomfortable. I was just feeling very weird about feeling uncomfortable in my new ( albeit saggy, lol ) skin