Family feedback

rce884
on 12/27/17 7:34 am
RNY on 09/05/17

So we did our big family dinner yesterday. and i was exposed to all my families feelings about my surgery, as per usual with my family everyone (save my sister who is still lukewarm on the whole thing) was positive. but i wondered what was everyone elses family responses like. were you able to show the doubters? did people go WOW!

Brag a bit about how you wowed your family!

I may not be there yet, but I'm closer than I was yesterday!

Highest weight 311/ Weight day of surgery 271/One Month 257/ Two Months 247.5 / Three Months 241/ Four months 234/ Five months 228

Smoka
on 12/27/17 7:55 am
RNY on 09/12/17

Hi rc,

It's interesting in my situation. Not many people have noticed that I have lost close to 60 pounds. I think what it is for me is that people remember seeing me at this weight and for some reason have blocked out the past ten years when I looked obese! Yes, some people who have not known me all my life have noticed something is different but can't put their finger on it. My neighbour keeps telling me that she loves my haircut , but I think she hasn't figured out that I'm losing weight because my hair is not that different. lol!

I only shared my wls experience with my husband, kids, sister and cousin. That's it. I'm pretty private about it. (except here of course!)

Everyone's situation is different and we all carry our weight differently, although yes, it will interesting to see what other people have noticed along their journey.

Thanks for posting!

Barb

Referred May 2016, Orientation July 4, 2016, Pre-Nutrition Class March 31, 2017, Nurse April 10, 2017, Blood work/ECG April 13, 2017, Ultra-sound April 27, 2017, Psychologist May 30, 2017, Colonoscopy and Gastroscopy June 5, 2017, Internist June 13, 2017, Dietician June 14, 2017, 2nd Round of blood work August 2, 2017, Surgeon September 6, 2017, Surgery September 12, 2017 - St. Joe's Hamilton - No Opti

Height 5"4" HW 231 SW222 CW141

PreOp-9 lbs M1-20lbs M2-11lbs M3-13lbs M4-7lbs M5-8lbs M6-7lbs M7-5lbs M8-5lbs M9-2lbs M10-0lbs M11 - 0lbs M12 - 0lbs

rce884
on 12/27/17 10:49 am
RNY on 09/05/17

It's true Barb, we do all carry it diferently, and i myself don't really see the difference but my family said they could all see it.

i know it is different for every person. i know i have been very open about my surgery to everyone.your neighbor and her thinking you had a new haircut is really funny,

i dont know if people would know if i hadn't told them about my surgery.

but thank you for replying

I may not be there yet, but I'm closer than I was yesterday!

Highest weight 311/ Weight day of surgery 271/One Month 257/ Two Months 247.5 / Three Months 241/ Four months 234/ Five months 228

Kathy1212
on 12/27/17 8:53 am

It's great that most people were positive! Congrats!

I got a lot of positive feedback too; my elderly aunt hasn't seen me since I lost the first 60 Lbs and now that I'm 130 Lbs down she was blown away and couldn't stop talking about it. She told me to stay the way I am and never gain it back, lol.

My cousins who I only see for Christmas and weddings/funerals were also blown away and I got lots of great compliments and questions about how I did it. I was upfront about having surgery and they were very supportive of my decision. Most of the cousins on that side of the family are retired teachers and I kept getting smiles and nods of approval when they looked at what I was choosing to eat, and how I said no to dessert. I thought that was cute.

My relatives who see me all the time mostly told me I am getting too thin and need to stop losing, lol. I am nowhere near too thin and only just got into the overweight BMI category recently, lol.

It was wonderful to not have to hide from the camera, and to not feel ashamed of how I look this year. Most years I didn't enjoy family gatherings at all because I was too embarrassed and ashamed of how big I was. This year for the first time in so many years I was able to just enjoy myself.

Pre-Op Visit: Jan. 10, 2017, weight 304, surgeon: Dr. David Lindsay, St. Joe's, Toronto

1st Day of (3 weeks worth of) Optifast: Jan. 11, 2017

Surgery Date: Feb. 1st, 2017

  Kathy  

rce884
on 12/27/17 10:51 am
RNY on 09/05/17

Thank you!

and i am so glad you got such good feedback. sounds like you and i had similar holdiays. i even got my photo taken for the first time in ages. (not for weight loss tracking)

i can only imagine people telling me to STOP losing weight. i dont think that will ever happen lol.

Congratulations!

I may not be there yet, but I'm closer than I was yesterday!

Highest weight 311/ Weight day of surgery 271/One Month 257/ Two Months 247.5 / Three Months 241/ Four months 234/ Five months 228

Kathy1212
on 12/27/17 11:47 am

It will definitely happen, and sooner than you think. People were telling me to stop when I was still 200 Lbs. Now that I'm 173.5, they are adamant that I should stop, lol. I'm not at goal but I guess I look so much different now than I did at 304 that they think I should be done.

Pre-Op Visit: Jan. 10, 2017, weight 304, surgeon: Dr. David Lindsay, St. Joe's, Toronto

1st Day of (3 weeks worth of) Optifast: Jan. 11, 2017

Surgery Date: Feb. 1st, 2017

  Kathy  

rce884
on 12/27/17 6:18 pm
RNY on 09/05/17

I know I will never feel like I will want to stop. It feels so good to see less and less of me.

I may not be there yet, but I'm closer than I was yesterday!

Highest weight 311/ Weight day of surgery 271/One Month 257/ Two Months 247.5 / Three Months 241/ Four months 234/ Five months 228

Starnaenae
on 12/27/17 11:01 am

Most people saw me for the first time pregnant. My face has changed drastically and coworkers dont recognize me (i work from home a lot). I am curious to see what i look like post partum and excited to shop as im jn DIRE need of clothes. Its great hearing the positive feedback but i also enjoy the negative as its usually uneducated people (about the surgery) and usually turn them into supporters after educating them!!

TWH: Referral May 2015 --> Orientation November 2015 --> Surgeon at TWH Nov 2016 --> Transferred to Guelph --> Surgeon Appt Dec 1 2016 --> Opti Start Dec 8 2016 --> Surgery Dec 22 2016 HW: 331 SW:302 GW: 170

rce884
on 12/27/17 11:09 am
RNY on 09/05/17

What a wonderful thing to turn a negative into a positive. how positively inspiring!

Would love to see your before and after photos!

I may not be there yet, but I'm closer than I was yesterday!

Highest weight 311/ Weight day of surgery 271/One Month 257/ Two Months 247.5 / Three Months 241/ Four months 234/ Five months 228

michelle W.
on 12/28/17 5:57 am
RNY on 06/12/17

I was quite shocked as well... my husband's family wanted to know where the rest of me was...and I told them that it was gone forever.... they didn't ask how I did it which surprised me as they are usually very nosy....lol

Referral - March 23rd 2016 TWH Orientation - June 15 2016 Social - Sept 6 2016 Nurse - Oct 3 2016 Nut Class - Nov 14 2016 Psych - Dec 14 2016 Nut Jan 4 2017 Surgeon - Feb 24 2017 Pre-op May 23 2017 Opti start date May 29 2017 Surgery Date - June 12 2017 HW-285 CW - 155.4 Opti start weight - 261.5 SW - 256

Preop-23.5 Opti-5.5 M1-13.8 M2-14.2 M3-11 M4-9.5 M5-9.9 M6-6.8 M7-9.4 M8-5.9 M9-4.2 M10-4.6 M11-2.4

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