Isn't this site supposed to be supportive??

I have noticed with others posts, the responses they get are harsh & very judge mental ! I joined OH to get advise from others that have been where I am and to bounce ideas off my peers & I believe the majority of us here are looking for the same. People come to OH for advise on one of the BIGGEST emotional journeys of their life! I don't understand what others would use that time to attack someone! Maybe before you post something, sit back and think of where you were are their stage of the journey? Scared, anxious excited, overwhelmed? The information dump you get from the DR or the NUT and you realize when you get home, you forgot 1/2 of what they told you. Before you say something that could stop them from seeking support, be kind.... We have all been there or are currently there.

I totally agree with you.  Most of the people on here give great advice, but there are a handful of woman that I notice enjoy ripping people apart.  Its almost like they sit on the computer all day waiting for a chance to start trouble.  I bet if you came face to face with these people they wouldn't act this way. Pretty sad when someone needs advice or support, and ends up with a bunch of middle aged bullies getting their kicks out of picking on them.  Oh well, there day will come.

I have been here six years and have never yet seen a "bully" on this forum.  That word is so overused that it is becoming meaningless.  It is amazing to me that people actually think that the vets continue to give up their time to come here to "get their kicks out of picking on" people.  That's ridiculous.  I can almost guarantee that you won't care enough to still be here in a year, let alone in 3 or 6 or 9 years.

if you truly believe someone is being a bully, block them.  Then you won't ever see any of their responses and they won't see any of your posts (and therefore won't reply to you).

Lora

What Lora said.

I have always gotten great advice.  I am thankful for all the help.  But, I do see some people that are acting like bullies.

Can you define"bully" or give an example of how someone here was a "bully"?  As I said, that word is so overused and has so many interpretations that have nothing to do with the original definition of the word, that it has become almost meaningless.  I am sure that no one intends to be a "bully" (sorry, having never seen it here, I cannot bring myself to use it without the quotes), and would be genuinely interested in what someone perceives as bullying behavior.

Also, if you truly believe that someone is "bullying" someone else, report the post.  If the OH moderators agree that it is inappropriate, they will remove it.

Lora

sometimes when I read a response it seems harsh, and the person will gang up with another friend and pick the person apart.  I just see it as bullying.  As I said, I have always gotten good advice.  I also saw a few posts down that people are getting mad because I said "Middle Aged woman", who said I was talking about you???  I have gone back many months ago and was reading some older posts. 

there is a big difference in bullying and tough love and guidance which the OP is usually looking for, we WILL NOT tell them it is ok  to do what we know is wrong, not gonna happen,, then they  see it as bullying,!! sad world we live in.

Instead of implicating ALL those "middle aged women" on the board, why not just say WHO you mean?   "Some people" posts just end up with lots of people feeling slighted and having to defend themselves.   Whereas maybe you only mean one or two?

if you think someone is a "bully", either call them out at the time or send them a PM telling them that's what they are!!!

Alternatively, hover over their picture and press the button that says block and YOU never have to read them again!

I never used the word 'bully' i was just hoping people could be kinder in the words they choose when speaking to others beginning their journey or even those that are struggling. I'm not pointing finger, I just noticed on some other people's post, they weren't spoken to kindly or with respect. That's the keys to a support system... Some people may need tough love along the way, but that can also be done with kindness.