Am I expecting too much??

Am I the only one that keeps getting frustrated with the loss? I am 2 and a half months out and I have lost almost half of my goal but I am still not happy with my loss. I'll explain: I know that 60 lbs is a lot to lose in the time that I've lost it but I really can't tell the difference. I mean with my before/after pics I can tell that I lost a lot but it doesn't seem to matter. I still have a hard time shopping for clothes and people who don't know about the surgery don't even comment on my weigh loss. Am I being too hard on myself and expecting too much? Do you guys ever feel the same way? Don't get me wrong I am happy with everything that I am accomplishing I just thought that 60 lbs would have made a greater difference, you know what I mean?

You've lost half your goal in just two and a half months?!  Wow, on average it takes people about six months to lose half their excess weight!  Yeah, it sounds like you are expecting way too much if you're disappointed by losing as much as most people lose in six months in less than three months.

I know it makes no sense at all but I just thought that it would show more you know? But I didn't know it took people that long to lose as much as I did. That makes me feel better!! Thanks!!

Sometimes how much it shows is more a matter of your own perception than reality, if that makes sense.  Can other people tell?  Sometimes it's like it takes our brains a while to catch up and we can't see a difference but others can.

People who know about the surgery can so I keep thinking that they are only saying something to make me feel better. But deep down I know that I am changing I can tell when I look at pictures. I think it is just anxiety...

Truly, I felt the same. Yes, I was loosing a lot and felt great, but I found people weren't noticing the first few months. Now, 4 1/2 months out, people say things ALL the time. I still see the BIG me, even though now I am in a size 16 from 26. What's up with that eh? Head games for sure. People will notice, they WILL say things soon, trust me they will. Keep doin it girl, it's an amazing journey and try to enjoy it. 

Annette 

I completely agree with this. I started in the same size as you and had surgery the day after you. I'm now inching my way into a 14. Me, a 14? No way! I caught a glimpse of the new me when I was coloring my hair last week when I was standing in front of the mirror and my hair was all slicked back and I honestly didn't recognize the person looking back at me. It's cool and sometimes creepy all at the same time. Enjoy the ride. I know I'm having fun unsubscribing to all the Catherine's and Lane Bryant emails I keep getting

60 lbs is a huge loss. it'll take time for your brain to catch up to your body. you're still in super loss mode. it will eventually slow down and you'll come to terms with yourself. 

as for people making comments, many people might not be comfortable mentioning your weight. those who don't know you had surgery may wonder if you're sick. i had a friend who discreetly pulled me aside at a dinner party because he didn't know i had surgery and was afraid i had an illness. 

Holy goodness--YES you are expecting too much. That is AMAZING. 60 lbs in 10 weeks!? You are losing SIX POUNDS A WEEK on average and you think it is not enough? 

Have you set up time with a therapist to talk through this? You should be THRILLED, not disappointed, IMO. 

And as far as someone saying anything-try opening up the conversation and see what happens. I shared here that folks were not saying anything and some wise folks further out in post-op than I am reminded me that there really is no nice way for someone to say anything.

Situation 1: Complimenter: Hey--you look great, you've lost a lot of weight. Recipient: No, I weigh the exact same (or worse) I have gained a few pounds recently

Situation 2: Complimenter: Wow, you have really lost weight, you look great. Recipient: Good to know I did not look so great before.

SItuation 3: Complimenter: You look wonderful in that fitted suit! Recipient: I need to file a sexual harassment complaint with HR. 

Once I opened the door by saying things like "I love that sweater, Mary. Where did you get it? Now that I am losing weight I need to get some new clothes and that is my style!" you'll find they will dive right in with a response a majority of the time!

Also, I was advised that there are people who did not see your weight, they saw YOU and the person you are inside and it is harder for them to see the physical changes because they have always viewed you as the person, not the body. 

Hope this is helpful. But DANG girl...60 lbs. WOW! I'll give you a virtual high five from here!!!

Awesome Response :)