About Me~Part~I

Apr 30, 2009

Well for various reasons I have not logged into this profile much at all in the past year and have not updated it but it is time.  Hang on for a long ride this is not a short story, but has a happy ending!! I am going to get things caught up from late 2005 to 2009.  The 1st post ill make is non surgery updates then I will blog again about my path to surgery.

Here we go: A little about Me!

  I am the wife of an Army SSG. 

We have 3 Boys, My Son age 14, my stepson age 13 and our son together is age 5 1/2

We are currently Stationed at Fort Lewis, WA

My favorite Hobby(obsession) is Quilting 

Always looking for new Quilting patterns or ideas, especially Military or patriotic themed. Fall of 2006, I made my very first quilt with my grandmother.   I made a welcome home quilt for my husband to have although with all the work put into it he refuses to take it with him on deployment because hes afraid someone will ruin it or take it.I am very thankful I took time out to make a quilt with my grandmother, my only regret is that I didn't start sooner because she passed away last year the day after Christmas. Our Quilt was one of the last ones she made.

 

 
He deployed Fall 2005 and returned Winter 2006. My husband had lost his Civilian job due to military service while deployed.  The government is working on taking the former employer to court but that can take years,  so when he returned home he went from the Guard to Active duty and his orders came and with only a week home he was gone again.
In the time he was away we found out our youngest son has Autism and like many others we were fighting to get a formal diagnosis and proper therapy. Where my husband was stationed with his new enlistment there are absolutely no Autism services available within 200 miles. Our son cannot go without services so we were forced to live apart at that time. We submitted a request for Compassionate Reassignment to his unit but his new unit wanted him to Deploy with them to Iraq so they did everything they could to not let that packet go to the final source. During this time with already having been apart so long and not having any help with my sons Autism or knowing much about it was a very overwhelming time for me in every way.   We were apart going on 2yrs

~November 2007~
As soon as the request got to the source needed it was approved immediately and orders were given to Fort Lewis, WA and so that is where we are now.  We were told we would get help with therapy and doctors needed but when we got here we got a rude awakening and found out we had to go on a waiting list just like everyone else.  Well why couldnt someone have told me that, I could have gotten him into the list before we moved and not wasted so much precious time. Our son turned 4 shortly after we moved to WA.  His body was 4 but the rest of him was like an infant.  He could barely say 10 words if that, it was heartbreaking to not beable to communicate and talk with him.   What also did not help is as soon as we got here, although my husband did not get deployed overseas he got sent on other things out of state.  He was home a few days, gone a month.  That went on for almost 6 months..   Our family especially our kids, need dad home just a little while at least.

~JULY 2008~
We have settled in now at Fort Lewis and our youngest son since moving here his speech has gone from 15 words to over 100!!! So proud of my Angel!! We still have a long way to go but moving here was the best thing we could have ever done for everyone!!

Other news is My step son has now come to live with us for good after being with his no good mother for 3yrs (and yes i have a right to say that, although ill never say it directly to his face, CPS too him from her 3 times for neglect and drug abuse and she is in jail for many many years now)!!

~March 2009~
While my husband was deployed she got temporary custody of him and then had moved and we could not find her.  She should have never been allowed temp custody again, like I predicted and we found out too late she was back on the drugs again and doign god knows what else.  She really messed that boy up.  The boy who left is not the boy who came home 3yrs later.  When he left to live with her he was on the Honor Roll and in Gifted Group, he was so smart.  When he came to us he could not even sign his own name, has huge behavior, emotional issues.  He was 10 when he left, hes 13 now and in additon to the emotional stuggle with him, thanks to his no good mother (who got him took for a 3rd time for abuse, neglect and her drug abuse) he has a drug addiction, that since we dont feed it he has turned to huffing.  We have an appt soon to get him into a rehab program.

~April 2009~

We have a formal diagnosis and have been getting treatment for the youngest for about a year now, however with learning more about Autism we have determined the oldest has Aspergers and are working on his diagnosis now so he can get some of the help he needs. There is also speculation that i may have Aspergers as well, but good luck on ever getting an adult diagnosis.   My husband is home now from deployment 2yrs now but has some emotional issues and PTSD. War is a sad thing, it changes people in ways the rest of us will never beable to understand. He is getting help now but we are told it is a long SLOW process. I stood by him while he deployed I will stand by him now!! He is and always will be my HERO!!

 

 

More updates to follow!!

  

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