Kathy!!!!!!!! Good to see you!! Wondered where you had gotten to!!!! well you know......we are at the point in our lives we are doing soemthing to help ourselves and it is important to surround ourselves with those that help us reach that goal. You said yourself you are eating things with him you would not otherwise. If you are doing that know just imagine how it would be down the road. I know having someone in your life is nice and what you want. But not the wrong person. thsi surgery is going ot be opening so many doors for you.....and when the time is right you will find the right person for you. And making that descision and telling him does not make you judgemental. You are wanting a healthier lifestyle....he isn't. If you wanted kids and he didn't would that be judgemental to end it? Hugs to you Kathy! you will figure out what is best for you. Donna

Hi Cyndi, I went shopping and picked out all these clothes that were huge and went into the dressing room and had to have my hubby go and get smaller sizes. I guess I still see myself as larger then I am. Eventually my mind will catch up with my body. It does feel good wearing something that actually fits and shows the weight loss. Finally the scale is moving in the right direction again. I am staying on my shakes twice a day and one meal deal for a while until I get all my weight off. Then weekends, I fudge a little. Hugs to you my friend, Love, Esther

Woohoo Esther! Way to go!!!! You're doing GREAT! Congrats on the clothes! Isn't it nice to wear something that actually fits. LOL * Cyndi *

Heya Kathy, you've been missed! I agree 101% with what Don and Cyndi have said. This is your time to be selfish and you have worked so hard to get where you are at right now, you need to think of yourself. It doesn't make you judgmental and mean, if anything, maybe it'll make him see things clearer. You've taken this enormous step for your health, perhaps he should to. If he isn't willing or ready, there's nothing you can say or do really, we've all been down that road before. I think we're all getting back on track after the holidays still. My scale has not been cooperating for months it feels like and I'm so sick of it See you around darling!

Don, you'd have to read my blog to get it. My husband has been anything but supportive. Let's just say I was driving and back to housework, cooking, cleaning, etc., the day I got home from my open RNY. I just see no reason to waste time with someone who is so stupid to take meds and think they're magical. My husband does it all the time. He has more scripts than my 92 year old grandfather. Yet, he still orders a large stromboli every other night and eats the whole thing himself! No one needs appetizer, soup, salad, main course and huge dessert for just themselves. If you're going to be that stupid, then so be it. But, we've made huge, life-changing decisions to make ourselves happy and healthy. And for someone to happily try to sabotage us just ****** me to no end. No matter how much you say, or doctors say, if someone wants to eat themselves to death, so be it. The only one who can change you is YOU. My husband's had cardiac caths and continues the path. He'll be 44 in May. His father had his first massive heart attack/stroke at age 47. The difference? My husband is about 300 lbs and happy. My FIL is about 150 lbs, a runner, goes to the gym every day, etc. He always has. Who's more likely to go down? I'd say my husband. I'm past the pity. I saved my life but I can't save his. He has to make the choice and he chooses to eat like it's his last meal.....every meal. I'm sorry I'm harsh but Kathy shouldn't have to save this guy from himself. And, she shouldn't be sabotaged. He may be sweet but his elevator surely doesn't go to the top floor. He's on meds. He knows he has problems. You saved yourself Kathy. Remember.....To Thine Own Self Be True. * Cyndi *