Hi Kathy, If you cut him loose because of this- that doesn't make you judgemental or mean put all your cards on the table with him in a --short-- time you will know if he will be understanding and helpfull in your new life style. if he is not maybe the best thing is to start cutting. side note hey Cyndi --WOW-- LOL I have guess I have an advantage my wife and I did the surgery the same time GOOD LUCK Don

Very strange how we're all stalling this week!!! This is only like the 2nd or 3rd week since surgery that I have lost nothing. Ugh! Surgery day: 367 Last week: 226 This week: 226

First, welcome back!!! We've missed you!!!! As for the b/f. You know what you have to do for you. You CANNOT let someone sabotage all the hard work you've done. I watch my stupid husband order from the pizza place at 10 pm. He always asks if I want something. WTF??? I just say "thanks. no.". I KNOW he's sabotaging me. I'm not stupid. I'm at 152 lbs. I'm feeling good. I guess I look good. I still see 265 lb me in the mirror. But, I REFUSE to let his stupidity with food affect me. You already know you can't "make" someone eat healthy. He "chooses" to go down this path. Super sweet guy or not, he's slowly killing himself. He has that stupid mindset my husband has. Like you can do whatever you want. The pills MUST be magic. You said he's 25. He's got it in his head that he's immortal. Age 25 you know EVERYTHING about EVERYTHING. He figures he's too young to die....comorbidities or not. Tell ya something pal. My cousin was killed by a drunk driver at age 27 and it'll be 20 years in April. He was minding his own business driving home from helping his brother-in-law build a deck. So, we're NEVER immortal. If it were me, I'd be having one HUGE heart-to-heart. But DO NOT let his ridiculousness sabotage your hard work. I refuse to let anyone dictate what I eat. I just sit back and watch in horror at all the **** my husband eats. I just make sure all the insurance is paid up. If he continues the path, it's his fault he had the heart attack, not mine. It's time to be selfi****ake care of YOU!!!!!! I'm in a man-hater mood today so take what you like from it. LOL * Cyndi *

Hi there Mayers!! I've been kind of MIA lately...so sorry. I think about you guys a lot and I read the boards daily. I guess I've just had a lot goin on these days... Here's my update- could be long... I have a new man in my life and he's wonderful. He is so sweet and kind and I know that he really, really cares about me. One problemo- He's got some serious health issues. He's 25 (I know- young for me, but whatever...) and already has a lot of weight related health complications- high blood pressure, sleep apnea, high cholesterol. It's all controlled by medication which is good that it's in check, but he's so young to have all those problems. So the problem is that I feel like we have a drastic difference in lifestyle. He eats crappy food and is always tired. He needs like at least 12 hours of sleep a night. I feel like I took some pretty drastic measures to ensure that I wouldn't end up with those typical weight related types of health issues and he seems to think that because he is taking medication, that everything is fine and he can hit the buffet again. I've had 2 conversations with him now about how I'm concerned about his health and he keeps telling me that he'll do something about it. Well he hasn't, of course. And I just feel like everytime we're together doing things- I'm being the food police in my head and worrying about what he's doing to his body. And on top of that- I feel like I eat things that I know I shouldn't be eating when I'm with him. So here's my real issue- I feel like I have come TOO far to go back down that road with anyone. I will never put my health in jeopardy again no matter what. This is a deal breaker for me. But I feel like if I cut him loose because of this- does that make me judgemental or mean? Should I try to help him or give him a chance? He is a super super sweet guy and I know that he loves me. But I can't go back to that place. Am I being fair?? I need some other opinions on this one... Aside from my man troubles...I'm doing ok. I have been gaining and loosing the same 3 pounds for like 6 weeks now. I can't seem to get past 169. I know it's because I'm totally eating things that I shouldn't. I'm WAY to heavy on the carbs, and I'm sure I'm low on protein. I've slipped on my vitimins also. I go back to the doctor on 2/7, and I'm terrified that my labs will be all jacked up. I'm not sure how I got so off track, but I know I need to focus on me and get my body back together. Anyway- I'm coming back to the boards. I think that talking with you guys helps to keep me on the straight and narrow with myself. Donna is right- we need to keep on posting!! Thanks for listening- as always. Kathy

Hay Yall This is my first sunday weigh in! Only 1lb lost this week and yes 1 is better than none only 10lbs to my Doctors goal YAH!!!!! LOVE YOU ALL BUNCHES!!!!! Highest 247 Today 155