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Topic: RE: OT--Today I Hate My Husband
I have "those days" with my husband too sometimes, but he is very, very generous with me and the money! I have to tell him no at buying me stuff most of the time. If I see something I like, I have to be careful NOT to tell him, cause he would do ANYTHING in his power to get it for me (even if we were late paying a bill or something). It drives me crazy not to pay a bill on time! I have a friend who is in the same situation as you, only she has not had surgery and her husband gawks at young, pretty, thin girls and always makes comments like "Look at the rack on that hot girl" and so forth... makes me so sick! Once he said that they NEVER had sex when we were all joking around and then when she got pregnant, I said, well you lied about the sex and he said, yeah, I HAD to have it once... He is a JERK and they have separate checking accounts and live like roommates! I feel so sorry for anyone who has to live like this. You should talk to him about your feelings cause these things can fester and cause some really terrible outcomes! I do wish you the best in this and I hope that he sees he is treating you un-fairly and that he should not be so controlling. Maybe the more weight you lose, the more insecure he is becoming...??? As for the Sharpei comments, I would find his worst feature - mention it to him, and ask him if he would like for you to bring it up all the time. It is not fair for him say things about your skin, as it is not something you can control or change without surgery. If he were bald, would he like for you to point out how shiny and BALD his head is all the time? (that is just an example, but you know what I mean...) I am hoping he comes to his senses while you are gone - and you don't let him keep you from going. He is not being fair and I would not be happy either if I were you! Good luck to you! I hope you have a blast with your friend... don't let him ruin your good time. Vent all you want to here! We are here to listen to you! Hugs to you!
Rhonda C.
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Topic: OT--Today I Hate My Husband
Yep, that's how I feel today! Tomorrow I am going away ALONE to PA until Thursday, and my girlfriend is meeting up with me Saturday night. Hubby has had $$$ arguments with me recently when my protein delivery arrived and he saw how much I charged for it---various flavors which were on sale. So his way is to yell, scream, and take away the checkbook and my credit and ATM cards. So now he has this CONTROL issue where he wants me to think that my trip is hanging on his final say or should I say approval.. He is turning into his father. When his father was alive and towards the end sick with emphysema he too had total control over my mother-in law. He had her hopping everytime he beckoned for her presence. If she was at someone's home and he called she had to drop everything and run home to him. This is how I feel too. Whenever I am out I am constantly looking at my watch to see how long it has been since I left the house. I hate it. I had more freedom living at home with my parent's as a teenager with a 1 am curfew. I have discussed this many times with him. I know I have a shopping compulsion but what woman does not, especially when they lose tons of weight like we all have! I am going to be 50 years old in October and totally resent being treated like "property". I must state this before I go further that I do love him and see us together until death, which may be very soon for him if he does not cut this possessive behavior out! LOL ONLY KIDDING!!! My life is tough enough with working and coming home stat so the day care provider that cares for my wheelchair disabled 23 year old daughter can go home to her family. I do not hang out in bars, do not smoke, do not go out, and when I do go away rarely with my friend, he makes me feel like he is the one allowing me to do so. Even jailed criminals have more privileges than I do. All I do is get my nails done every two weeks and go tanning. Even then when I get my nails done I have to listen to him that I spend too much money on my nails and I just had them done and I don't need to spend the money. We seem to go through this usually when it is HIS time of the month! I swear he needs to go on anti-depressant something! I have even spoken to our doctor about it but the doctor can't put him on anything unless he asks for it. He will always tell the Dr that everything is fine. Right now I hate my life--no I am not going to do anything stupid. I just hate being married today! If I could support myself on my own I sometimes wonder if I would consider the "D" word. I just now finished dying my hair myself because I am tired of spending $200.00 at the salon. I think it turned out pretty nice but my OTHER HALF apparently does not like it because he is snickering and making a face while shaking his head. Another thing he does that I hate but WILL NOT LET HIM KNOW is he calls me his little shar pei because of all the weight I lost and the saggy skin. Oh, I know I am rambling and I feel very guilty to be writing this because I know that come tomorrow I will regret it but this is how I feel right now at this very moment. I plan on brining this up at my next therapy session. Thanks for listening, you guys are the best!
Hugs 
Marianne
Marianne 
Topic: RE: Scared and confused
Well they will be shocked, elated, excited, a little nervous because it is a new you, ,maybe not mind but definently body. I really think they will take your cue's and go with it as you want them to. What I mean is, when people don't know how to act they usually look to the person they are nervous around for cue's on how to act. Unless your family is mean and unsupportive which I am sure they aren't then you have nothing to worry about. These are the people who gave you life and I am sure all they've ever wanted for you is your health and happiness which they will surely see when they look into your eyes. Best of luck to you and don't worry, they're gonna love you.
Shannon 
Topic: RE: First Sandwich since September '04
I eat my sandwiches on a low carb soft taco shell. They taste great and I am very satisfied. I buy the big ones and cut them in half, also I don't roll them like a wrap rather I just fold it in half. I eat turkey breat, ham, tuna, you name it. Of course it tastes best with lettuce and tomato, so I usually add that too. You should try it, it has all the flavor of a sandwich without the bulk of the bread.
Jo
Topic: RE: Scared and confused
I'm sure they want nothing but a healthy life for you and to see how much energy you now have, any parent would be the happiest person in the world. My dad was scheduled to have surgery 4 month's after me and at that point i was already down over 100 lbs and he actually went under the knife before the surgeon decided it was too dangerous and wouldn't do it, which really bummed him out, but one of the things that he said to me was at least if only one of us could have it done at least it was you. Which really showed how much a parent just wants what is best for their children. Relax it'll all be fine.
Topic: Scared and confused
K so i really need help i am scared .. TOMARROW is a big day for me.I am gettin on a plane to go see my parents... which i should be REALLY HAPPY about bc they havent seen me since last summer.... but i am scared of what they will think... the last time i seen them i was 350 lbs and i really looked bad and now i am 205 lbs... Are they gonna be happy are they gonna freak are they ... i have no clue and now i cant seem to find anything for me to wear... and i am tryin to pack and its like i have never met these people in my life... i mean the last time i was 205 was when i was in 5th grade.... and now i dont know... i talk to them all the time and they know that i am down 205 but i am soooo scared to get off the plane... I almost have this feeling that they are not gonna like the new me... bc my daddys big and my momma too and here i am tryin to be the healthy one in the family.. and i dont want them to reject me for it. I never thought that i would be this way ... i mean dang. This is worse then the night before surgery. i am already shaky... and full of tears... someone anyone help me calm down... I just talked to my sister and she said that they cant wait to meet the new me.... but what happens if they dont like the new me... i have always tried to be what they want and if they dont like this how am i gonna take it... K i am ramblin right now....
MAnda
Topic: WATER
k guys just a reminder to get ur water or fluids in... while in the hosp this last wkend they were pumpin fluids like never before in me and i was feelin welll very friendly to the bathroom bc well i constantly had to pee.... to pee is not a bad thing we need that to lose ... So come on get it down ... if you dont it can cause us to STOP LOSING it can make us dehydrated and it can cause constipation... so its summer and ur gonna need more bc we sweat more... And 1 more thing take ur daily calcium and vitamins too... they help us lose as well.
manda
Topic: RE: 9 months out
I'm down 86 pounds. 44 pounds to goal, woohoo! I think all 44 of those pounds are in my thighs, lol.
Topic: RE: First Sandwich since September '04
Lucky you! I still cannot tolerate any kind of breads. And I miss it sooo much! I use taco shells when I feel a need for some kind of a sandwich. Not the same thing but works for me! 
Doreen
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