How do Normal People handle it when Life Sucks?

Ok, how do normal people handle it when life sucks? The old me would have eaten and eaten and eaten to handle the last few weeks ........ I had told my husband that our marriage of 30 years was over. Left for Irvine on Friday and was there for only 12 hours when my Aunt passed away in WV. She was like my second Mom and not only did I have to bury her we had to go through all her stuff. She had lived in the same house her entire life. She had lived with my grandparents her entire life and taken care of them. They both have passed away. Everything I touched was a memory and cried like a baby. We got home late Sunday night.... Last night I was up all night caring for my dying dog, Kookie. She was 18 and lived a long life...we put her to sleep 10:00 am this morning.... pass the Kleenex please....I can't stop crying as this is the second dog I have lost in 6 months. I am not here to imply my pain is more than anyone else's here. But if we can't eat, and we don't have addiction transfer and don't drink and or shop to deal with pain, then what do we do to handle all this pain? What do normal people do to get through a crisis time like this if they don't eat? I think there were days I didn't eat, and then days when I did but I don't remember. I know in the old days My best friend food would help me through, but it can't be an option anymore..... How do you cope? Thanks for your suggestions.... Take care, Kathy

Well i talk to my friends, post on here. Let myself be upset and sad. It sounds life handed you alot at once. Just try to lean on people and talk about how your feeling

Thanks Amanda, Great advice... I usually exercise when dealing with stress but fell and messed up my foot as well UGH! Take care, Kathy

Hi Kathy - I'm really sorry to hear about all the stressers you are going thru. My condulences go out to your Aunt and your furbaby. It's really hard, I've been going thru some pretty heavy stuff myself since the first of the year and I've often wondered how to deal w/ life on lifes terms since I can't eat my way thru it. I've had to take things one day at a time and trust in my higher power that he will carry me when I am weak. There is no easy answer. I even tried counseling when my husband and I were going thru some rocky times, I chose not to go back. I don't know what the answer is but I feel your pain. Hang in there. Christina

Kathy I am sorry you are going thru a storm and i wish i could be your umbrella but since i cant i will send up amessage to my Father and he will come and see about you and comfort you i say that Kathy because truly God will . I have beenthr u the same thng with the loss of of my mother, father, and first husband i thought like giving up thru the storm but he brought me out and today i can say i made it and you can to may the peace of God be with you. you have people in this forum who trul cares and i am one of them!! love Krissy

I do think those that are close in faith (no matter what faith) feel they can deal. You never feel alone. Thank you for the kind words and kind thoughts. Take care, Kathy

Hi Christina, I guess you are right.... I thought normal people had the answer and I guess there are no answers. Sorry to hear about what you have been going through. I knew I was not alone and wondered without food how do we deal. As you said one day at a time!!! Good luck to you and thank you again!!! Take care, Kathy

My friend, you ARE normal and you are coping in 'normal' ways.  Your emotional reaction is exactly the way I'd react and probably many others on this board. You have been through so much in the past few years, and you've always been so strong for everyone around you.  Give youself a little credit here! I've found that when I get cravings,I drink water.  Or take a nap..lol..at least I'm not eating! LOLOLOL Anyways...I miss you,ole pal!! E me soon! love, k ps yes my hair is pink!