how do you handle no support?

i am very thrilled and positive that i may be having this surgery for my health benefits as well and just losing the weight , and no one in my family supports this. i amk starting to almost give up because how can i do this alone , although my fiance is by my side i need my family! what can i do to convince them? or should i just not bring it up to them at all?

I really did not have any family support when I had my surgery (but I do not have much family support in anything so that did not surprise me!). I think that you can not try not to convince them, just show them but doing using your tool to the best that you can. They will see how much healthier and happier you are and will then come around. My sister did not want me to have the surgery but that was only because she was/is jealous. She will not comment on my weight loss except to make a negative comment but I do not care, I can tell she is just jealous. Good luck, as long as you have the love/support of your fiance I think that you will do great! Besides, you have all of us here, we are here for virtual hugz and hollers whenever you need them

I have found that it is the fear that keeps family unsupportive. They are scared for you. But once they see how healthy you are, I am sure they will come around. How did your appt with Dr. frantzides go? He di my surgery and he saved my life. I love him and the entire staff. Good luck Shar

thank you sooo much !!!! i am just a nervous wreck then to figure out family doesn't want me to go through this hurts,,, i planned on my mother to go to my first appt. with me to meet dr. frantzides , but my fiance (Tommy) will , which is great! My appt is on May 10th!!! His staff seems so nice over the phones so far! how was you experience>?>????

You will love the whole staff!! what time is your appointment on the 10th? I will be there at 1 pm on the 10th! My family is mixed!! My brother told me why are you having this surgery if you will just blend your whoppers he is a dick!! MY dad did not want me to do it at all!! My dad did show up at the hospital and I even saw him praying after I made it out!!! My mom is supportive but most of all my husband and my best friend!! Of course my family here is always supportive!! good luck to you and don't worry about your family they will come around!!

Had support from few family members...others always asking me why?..and what if?.. I didnt listen to them, I did this for *ME*...no one else... They now see why I done it...not only for health issues but for LIVING again... They now are amaze of the results and so am I..I wouldnt change a thing...

Hi Kellie - You have to do this for you. If you know in your heart that this is the right choice for you, that's all that matters. You will get plenty of support from your OH family and friends. Hopefully your family will come around but I would just proceed as normal and not push them to understand or convince them. They love you and are scared but I do beleive in the end, they will be there for you no matter what. Just remember, you are not alone... we will be there for you to share your fears, your excitement and success. If you need to talk, call me. 630-440-4441 Christina

I am also having trouble with my support system.....My mom lives in New York and so does my sister, I have three grown daughter one of whom lives in Scotland, one is struggling with addiction issues (all) and the last one lives close and I watch her children everyday yet she is against this. It is looking like I will be having the surgery in June if all goes well but the Dr Kane is 200+ miles from my home.....I will get dropped off at the hospital and then I am looking to get a hotel for about a week so I will not have to drive 200+ miles if I have trouble.....I am scared about being alone but more scared of living fat the rest of my life as I am 48. Blessings Shannon

You can do this Shannon! Congratulations on taking the steps to a healthier you! ((HUGS)) Christina

Christina I forgot to mention my best friend....is name is copper and he is a pound dog of pomeranian mix.....I have had him for about 4 yrs and I dont know what I would do without him....... Thanks For your words Shannon