GREAT!

well i guess i am outted! no i already told my family what i planned on doing , ( RNY) and my mom just thinks it is not the way to go, ( as i said in an earlier post) and then someone knew who i was from my sons name then told thier mom which works with my mom.... now she read my postings and is *****ing about my posting stuff . like for instance..... i posted something on my doctors fee cost , beacause my insurance only covers hospital and pre-op...... so she is in my financial business now and i am super stressed now, So now i have to put up with her talking about this site! i am not angry with the person who outted me being on this site , but i am angry with my mom and her work friend because i can just imagine conversations at her work. My mother is a size 10-11 and does not know what i go through! So some advice! if you think you know someone on this site say hello , but do not tell others that are not on this site that we are! this is a very personal desision and it takes a lot of courage to make it, now i have someone i love coming down on me harder!

Kellie.. Change your profile name. You can also set your profile as private so these people can not read your journals. Hang in there. Christina

I am so sorry that someone felt the need to bring up your business!! I am even more sorry that you don't have the family support !!! Remember you have friends here!! I also agree about changing your name because if anyone puts your name on a search engine your profile and post will most likely show up!! hugs to you hope thing improve!!

That is terrible, and you are right, people who are not like us or who have never been heavy do not know what we go through. The way people look at you when you are heavy, the nasty things they say, and just in general how you are treated when you are a heavy person. You are also right this is a personal decision and it is a hard decision to make especially when people you count on can't see it is for your health and so you can feel better about yourself. I know alot of people think, why don't you just cut down on what you are eating or go exercise. Like we don't think about that, and its not as if we don't try only to fail. I am sorry your mom does not agree with your decision, but you do what you feel is right for you.

Kellie you and I have pm'ed each other a few times so you can om me and vent too and the changing your name ect sounds like a good idea also. I know what your going through trust. Im 31,married with 4 kids one special needs so youd THINK im equiped to make this decision for myself but NOOOO I got everyone butting into it also. Its not there choice. After I talked to all these great people Ive realized several things. One being this if they cant except me and what I want and need to do then THEY are the ones being selfish. And if there not paying for it its none of there business. I let it discourage me too but not anymore. im excited now and I dont care what they think. I had to tell my own mother if she has to bring it up in my home in a negitive way she doesnt need to come back. she said some horriable things to me in my home to use as a guilt trip to not have this surgery. But I told her to get out because im happy with my decision and if they cant except it tuff crap. I dont need anymore stress or negativity in my life esp. from the people that are suspose to support me.

thank you guys sooooo much i can not and will not get through this without ebing able to write to you freely so i am just going to keep on keeping on lol!!! Hell , at the rate things are going in my life i may not have to worry about my hair fallling out after surgery, because its doing a fine job falling out from stresss right now!!!!! again thanks and i will vent again because it doen feel good to talk with people who may have the same problems as me! i feel like i am in a nice group and not alone anymore!. GO GROUP!!!!!!! FREE THERAPY!!!!!!